Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

If my partner offered to buy me a doll as a gift, I think I'd cry tears of joy. He honestly has a fear of dolls (he watched Child's Play as a kid and it traumatized him) and he thinks they are way too expensive, so it would actually be a really sweet gesture. And no, I would never sell it, I would probably just tell him where to get the one my eyes are on currently

 

I also don’t have a boyfriend but answering anyways haha.
I don’t think I would like them to buy me a full doll. To me that is just too big for a gift! As others have said, I would much rather a gift that is doll related than a full doll. Maybe they could set up a face-up with my favourite artist instead?
I have In the past received a gorgeous wig from a friend and even though it doesn’t really suit my characters I’d never sell it

 

I frequently ask my boyfriend if does wants to buy me a doll but he says NO everytime >< well I am joking mostly but if he could buy I woundn't say nooo

 

My husband bought me doll as a Christmas present two years ago, and offering to buy me another doll this year for my birthday present. I have a wonderful hubby

 

My husband does well financially now but, when he was my boyfriend he was just and poor student. I was the one with the full time job and would often pay for him. If he had bought me a doll I would have felt really guilty about it. I wouldn't have sold it or anything, but I would have felt the need to pay him back. And if he got me a doll I didn't like...well I guess I would have pretended I liked it haha However now that thing are different, I would actually be able to enjoy the gift and be really touched. He won't though, its just a nice dream haha.

 

I wouldn't say no if they wanted to buy me a doll. If he got me a doll I didn't like I'd still keep it. At least for awhile. After all it was an expensive gift. Eventually I'd probably trade it.

 

Definitely would say no as it’s an expensive hobby that I am used to but they shouldn’t have to pay for. If he really wanted to buy me something doll related I would ask for clothes!

 

No significant other at the moment, still hunting, still unsuccessful XD.

Joke aside, if it is only my hobby, something fairly expensive and not something the other person can use, I would rather buy it myself. That way, no regret if the relationship sours, no tying the object to the person, no guilt tripping, etc.

That goes for doll, jewelry, clothes, and all "typical gifts". (That said, I absolutely loathe useless expenses and cheap gifts for the only sake of giving, as I think it's useless, encourage consumerism, and is not a "proof of love", but only a proof that the person doesn't know me that well. The only things I would approve of are theater tickets, food and the picking of our common tab at the bar XD.)

 

Not to be cynical but I know some people who has received expensive gifts from their partners early on in their relationships, where the partner then turned out to be extremely manipulative and used the gift as a way to guilt-trip the other person to stay in the relationship. That of course doesn't mean that every person who gives expensive gifts has bad intentions, but I still think it's a thing to consider. I like to think that everyone has the best intentions, but when it comes to stuff like this I just don't want to risk anything.

But if it's a partner who I have been together with for a long time, who has proven that they won't use it against me, and I know I doll won't wreck their economy, then sure. Though I'm not good at accepting gifts in general without feeling guilty.....

 

I think that as long as it wasn't re-cast, I would be very happy with whatever my boyfriend got me... though I think I have him mostly trained not to spend THAT much money on me! I feel really guilty when people spend a lot of money on me.

Like... I want the thing, but also I am not worth the thing, you know?

But like... I feel like if your partner cared that much about you and your hobby, it would be worth it to keep that doll... to find a way to do stuff with your partner with that doll and use it as a way to connect further? This is something that they thought you would like. Something they bought while thinking of you... wouldn't it be fun to discover what parts of the doll are you, and what parts are them and their own tastes?

 

So as long as he isn't throwing himself into any sort of financial issues for me, I think it would be alright. Sure, I would definitely owe him for that, but I would be extremely appreciative of the thought!

 

My husband buy for me for xmas some dolls

 

My fiancé bought me a Minifee completely unprompted about 4 months into our relationship. I had taught him about recasts very early on, so that was never an issue. He just said one day, “alright, bring up Denver Doll, I’m going to order you a doll!” and then he did! He’s always shown an interest in my BJDs, but that was just so surprising, thoughtful, and generous of him. I was sort of blown away by it, especially since having someone so interested and supportive of my doll hobby was a stark contrast to my previous relationship.

 

If my S.O. ever decided to buy me a doll, I'd be floored and touched beyond reason. They are very scared of old fashioned porcelain dolls. So much so, they were initially wary of my doll collection when they first laid eyes on it. It was only after sometime did they grow an appreciation of the time and effort I gave my dolls and the results that it garnered. The odd thing, is that while I was attempting to re-home a doll I had bad blood with, they became enamored with her sculpt. I was a bit crest fallen, because out of all them. It had to be that one! Eh. So, I told them. I found a tiny version of her, if you can answer me for a design, I'll give something that will represent a truce and our bond. My S.O. was gifted with a Volks Yosd Mimi designed the way they wanted her to look.
I will be honest and say I still am sour about the model, but because they love her so much, I tolerate her being around. I know what she means. That very thing is priceless.

 

If I was married to them i would be more willing to let them, but I would try to hit towards what I like. And of course if no money problems were going on at the moment.

If it was a regular boyfriend I would prefer them not to

 

I would say no, he just got a job after current world events put him out of work for a bit and he took a significant paycut... we're both college students as well, it just would feel right

 

I would love if someone wanted to buy me a doll but i would ask if i could pick it. You could also give them a few dolls to choose from kust to be surprised.

 

Nope for me. Unless he's gonna put a ring on me, I wouldn't go there. I love super dollfies and wouldn't want to associate any bad memories to them if I ever broke up with a boyfriend. Plus, this is an expensive hobby.

 

I would say no.
It could lead to more trouble than it is worth. I don't think it is the sign of a good starting relationship. At the end of the day, a gift is money and should be treated as such.

It is a bit like accepting a drink, even a cheap one, and spending the rest of your life thanking the person, whether or not you wanted that drink in the first place.

AND from personal experience, it is a sign that the day/experience will be ruined by the person who wants to gift something. Usually, this kind of offer happens to me when the giver does not want me to make friends or lasting relationship with somebody.

So beware.

 

I would say no. I have had multiple people over the years buy me dolls, and I don't like it personally. I always feel obligated to keep them and so far no one has EVER bought me a doll I actually LIKE. Even when I collected Barbies people bought me some, and they were never ones I would have bought for myself. I am grateful that they were thinking of me and wanted to gift me, but I would rather they didn't because I felt awful about it every time.

 

I don't know. I wouldn't want them to buy me a BJD.
My taste in BJDs in my opinion can be quite expensive. Also, What would happen if we break up?
Will they try to destroy the doll in front of me? I would be way too frightened, I would debate if i should tell them about my hobby in the first place. This is a very personal hobby of mine and I would feel awful if they ostracized me for it. It seems like people still aren't that accepting of people who collect BJDs anyway. If I were married to the person and i know our relationship isn't temporary, I might be okay with them buying me a BJD. I don't know though. I am at a point in my life where I wouldn't even want a close relative to buy me a doll. Out of fear that they would ridicule and mock me or make me feel guilty for being in this hobby to begin with. Hopefully, I will end up with someone that will understand my odd quirks and interests. Someone who will accept me for who I am .

 

I'd be way too concerned at why they are spending so much on me. I could possibly do half/half. I really like surprise gifts. Cause it really is fun to see what people come up with for a human.

 

I was a lot like you! My family knows about the dolls, but no prices, and they only found out 3 years into my time in the hobby! I told my girlfriend about my mental illness and my unconventional pets (a cat sized lizard) and some of my trauma before I told her about the dolls, I think because I knew if she was weird about any of those other things I could just write her off as a bad person or as incompatible. The dolls felt different.

we had been dating for almost a year and a half the first time I mentioned my dolls, and it was only cause she was feeling vulnerable cause she’d just wanted to show me her stuffed animal collection, and she wasn’t sure what I thought. So I told her about dolls. I showed her pics of dolls, I kind of just went “this is all you will ever hear me talk about.” And she thinks dolls are the coolest thing I do. There are some awesome people out there who will think your dolls are awesome.

I 100% get your hesitation to let anyone you’re not marrying buy you dolls. One of my biggest regrets when I broke up with my ex is that she had 3 event tinies that were mine, that I “lost in the divorce” so to speak, which is another thing that’s turned me off ‘sharing’ dolls—and those were ones I still paid for!

 

That is so sweet!
I am so sorry about your 3 event tinies. That really sucks.

 

Loptr is a career single. But I have received dolls as gifts. Actually, I started by giving them away, but then a friend and my parents surprised me with a head or a cheaper doll on four occasions. Straight-up blew my mind, and still does if I'm honest. There's an incredible person here on DoA who has given me full dolls out of the blue, twice, and traded me a body for a head. I will probably never stop paying it forward. I've bought first dolls for three different online friends, and now have the opportunity to do something I've always wanted to: help someone I know in person get into BJDs.

That said, the biggest difference between getting a doll from a friend or acquaintance is that it's not from a romantic partner. Negative feelings can surround any object that comes from them if the relationship fails. I admit that I've never had that issue with my stuff- the Taeyang doll and handmade gifts I have kept from a former friend always remind me of our good years, even though we parted on bad terms. If the partner offers, you should always consider carefully where your relationship is, where it's going, if they have any history of manipulating you through gifts/gestures, and whether your comfort level in owning that object might change should something bad happen.

...At the same time, they're offering to buy you a BJD. Most people wouldn't blame you for just saying 'yes!'

 

my husband always tell me that i spend so much money in my collection, but he supports me!! but sometimes i dont tell him until the figure arrives at home!!

 

I would have absolutely no problem, as long as its a doll I like and they aren't spending waaaaaay to much. If the person I was dating was in a less than okay financial sitch I would be okay gong havsies or them only paying for accessories or less expensive parts.
Most of the people that buy me gifts have no idea about my taste in dolls and will not spend more than 100 dollars on a doll, and I prefer MSDs and SDs. Soooo I doubt it.

 

I don't think I would have been comfortable with a boyfriend or girlfriend spending that much money on me in the first place. With relationships that have a very decent chance of ending, it just has far too much potential to get ugly. I'm married and honestly I still wouldn't want my wife to pay for anything that was beyond MSD sized, unless we'd recently gotten a really big financial windfall. I'd be incredibly touched by that kind of gesture, though, and if we were certain it was financially okay, I'd let her get me something.

I doubt she'd get me something I disliked because my wife is pretty in tune with my tastes and is also a fairly cautious person, so she'd probably make sure I was okay with whatever she'd picked out. On the off chance that she did, though, I don't think I could keep on disliking it for long. Thinking about how she cared enough about me to pick something out for me would automatically make me have warm and fuzzy feelings towards the doll, even if it was an ugly thing. I would never be able to bring myself to sell it.

 

I think if you're comfortable in your relationship and comfortable in your finances, maybe. But I've seen and heard so many stories of dolls bought by partners-turned-exes that lead to resenting the doll. I know that I personally would never ask my partner to buy me a doll, nor would I accept one as a gift (and she's tried lmao) but I do, however, accept clothes, wigs, etc. as gifts. I think there's a certain responsibility you feel when you buy yourself a BJD, whether it be $150 or $1500 that you don't necessarily experience when receiving one as a gift.

But hey, if you're in a relationship where spending hundreds of dollars on eachother is normal and you guys understand eachother's interests like that - then more power to you, go for it!

 

I would let them buy me a doll. But if I didn't like it I wouldn't sale it I would probably just box it up and store it but I would definitely let my wife or family but me one.

 

Since dolls are much more expensive than a gift I might normally expect for any occasion and since it's a highly personal hobby for me I will say that yes, I would be ok with someone giving me a gift of a doll if they took the time to ask me first for my consent. My personal background is that I have received manipulation gifts in my life and basically it's a terrible experience so the least they can do is ask first. After that I mean I think it makes sense to ask after some dolls I personally already know of and would consider ordering if they are planning to go to the trouble of that. I guess there's the very slim possibility that maybe you have a good friend and they find a thrift store bjd and want to give it to you or something in which case eh I guess all the rigamorole can be waved. It's nice to be thought of, and that is the reason for most gifts.
I can't possibly keep everything anyone ever gave me if I don't like it so I would hope the gift giver would understand that that might happen eventually. I wouldn't want to turn around and immediately sell it though. I would at least want to make a solid effort to "use" it first unless it was so off that I just didn't feel I could accept it in the first place. God how awkward that would be

 

I would definitely say no. If this was near the start of our relationship I would be uncomfortable with it and if this was when we were very close I still believe the money would be more useful saved up something more important in our future. Most importantly if I broke up with them I wouldn’t like to associate a bad memory with a nice doll!

 

There are many things I have grown to dislike because of people no longer in my life, but dolls have never been one of them. If a partner wants to pay that much money to shower me with a gift, I'd be...okay with it on that aspect at least. I'd have to REALLY trust them for me to not worry they'll use it as leverage against me later, though.

 

I asked him for one and he says I don't need a Kiki collection to match my furby collection

 

my partner buys me a lot of things honestly, they spoil me a little bit hahaha! They've bought me furbies, soooo much yarn, two lolita fashion dresses and even doll clothes at one point. They did also help me get my grail doll, a volks Hewitt so i guess that counts! They're kind of uncomfortable with spending a lot of money at once tho so id never outright ask unless I got another grail. Im so grateful to my current partner tho they really support me and my ways of expressing myself!

 

My wife actually bought me my first doll! It makes her all the more special I definitely don't ever plan on selling her, as she is one I really wanted!

 

I would say yes, but with the caveat that I choose where he buys it. Since my fiance knows nothing about dolls, I wouldn't want him to mistakenly buy a recast. I want to say that I'd want to choose what sculpt he buys, but honestly I think it'd be interesting to see what he'd choose and have it be a surprise.

If he were to choose a doll, I feel like he'd choose Ring Doll's Jee. I showed it to him last week because I thought it was cute and funny, and he actually really liked it, haha! I personally wouldn't choose that doll for myself, but I also wouldn't say no and would keep it. I doubt he'd ever buy me one, though. My birthday was on Saturday and prior to that he asked me if I wanted anything and I said, "there's not really anything I want other than some dolls," and he was basically like "yeah, no." lol

 

My partner mentioned a couple of times that he really wants to buy me a doll as a gift, specifically the one I was often talking to him about. But he does not know the name of the sculpt and I feel too ashamed and awkward to tell him even when he’s asking about it because of the price It’s a minifee by the way… He is not in the hobby as well, so without my help he wouldn’t even know where to look for it. Even though I would cherish the doll twice as hard if my partner were to gift it to me, no matter the sculpt, I don’t want to put this financial burden on him.

 

I rather be married or engaged first, these dolls are too expensive imo for a gift from a BF/GF!

 

My partner HAS bought me a couple of dolls; some were even a surprise. We've been together quite a while now, so they know what I like pretty well.

 

My husband has bought me a doll as a birthday gift, but he knew which doll I really wanted. I’m not sure I would’ve wanted him to do so back when we were dating though - like many have mentioned if it hadn’t worked out or something I might feel weird about keeping the doll. Also we were in a very different financial situation back then - I probably would’ve been upset with him spending that much. But now I’ll happily accept a doll as a present from him lol!

 

I wouldn't mind but I'd tell them what to buy. Dolls are expensive, so I wouldn't want them to make a bad buy. However, I think I would probably love any doll that my partner picked for me!

 

My boyfriend has bought me a doll before, and he always checks and listens to me about what I'm interested in. He's good at making mental notes of dolls I like x3

I would say yes, as we both frequently get each other things! We both support each other's hobbies strongly.
He's super into Warhammer 40k, so I'm usually buying him a lot of models for that, and he buys me dolls and doll clothes :3

 

I'm not dating anyone right now, but I would be pretty happy if my significant other got me a doll. If I got a doll I didn't like, I'd probably try and regift it or try and force myself to like it (lol). Selling it might be an option as well.

 

I would say no. BJDs a LOT of money and I would be pretty uncomfortable accepting it. If the relationship ever ended, I would be very uncomfortable keeping something so valuable. If I needed to end the relationship, the guilt would be one more thing holding me back.
A husband would be different. I would know the financial situation very closely, he’d know my preferences better, and I don’t see ending as an open possibility (outside of an extreme situation) the way I would with dating.

 

My exes bought me dolls in the past. It didn't ended well with them neither the dolls LOL so I took it as a sign of not letting people buying me dolls.

I could accept a head or complements, but not the whole thing.

 

I would think in a GF/BF relationship, I would say no. I remember buying a $500 TV for my 1st BF and we broke up. I was so glad that I didn't give him the gift and kept it for myself. So in case of a doll, it would be the same thing after that experience. Anything over $100 I would flat out say no to. I mean who knows in that sort of relationship if it's going to go somewhere or fail. Then you have to worry about giving all that stuff back or not. UGH.

But if it was my husband buying me a doll. I would be like what computer stuff do you want? He knows the drill, I get dollies and he gets computer stuff.

 

I would not accept a doll as a gift from someone I'm not married to - that's just too much of a money sink for me to be comfortable with. However, my husband has and does "gift" me dolls/doll stuff on occasion! I put gift in quotations because we're both picky about our hobbies, so our "gifting" ritual is that we set a budget, buy what we want ourselves, then let the other person wrap it for the appropriate holiday/event. It's a bit unorthodox for some people's taste, but it works for us.

I have yet to have difficulty bonding with a doll that was gifted, but I would assume that selling it and repurposing those funds for something else that I would enjoy more would be fine with him.

 

I would like to emphasise what you said, Thespian, because it is something that has happened to me. I found out I was going to get a doll on layaway and tried to help, but my ex refused. I asked him to, please, not touch it when the doll arrived. I needed to be the one to open the box and wear it for the first time. It's weird, I know, but it's like a little welcoming ritual for me.
One day I found the doll dressed, without the box on my desk. It was one of my grails at the time and I could never embody a character in it.
So yes. I think that buying a doll yourself or having certain habits when opening it and spending the first few days with it helps bonding.

 

This does remind me of a husband story that is tangentially related. I purchased a LTF Luna at one point, my first Yo-SD, but didn't have the extra funds to get her a wig for a hot minute. I generally don't name dolls until they have all of their stuff, so she was nameless as well as bald for a bit. My now-husband (then-boyfriend) took to calling her Caillou, and even long after I'd obtained a wig for her and named her, I couldn't shake the Caillou association and ultimately never bonded with her. My husband remains very apologetic about that whole fiasco and no longer offers commentary on my incomplete dolls.

 

OH MY!
I can imagine! Well at least he apologised and didn't do it again.

 

I would tell them exactly what dolls I want

 

Several years ago, my husband knew I was saving up for a doll from an artist who I wanted several dolls from. At the time $800 was a significant amount of money and I could only save up for one doll over a period of about five years. Secretly! Behind my back! Without ever giving a hint that he was plotting! My husband managed to save up a matching amount of money. When I went to place my order and try to decide between two dolls, he let me know I didn't have to choose.

 

My husbund asked me about this before and I told him I prefered him not to... I like to pick out dolls that I like and I enjoy the process. But if it is doll accessories that would be fine.

 

I'd direct my partner toward a few of the ones I really want to choose from! And make sure to show them legit sources and explain that no, the cheep options you find on aliexpress and similar places are counterfeits and nnnot a magical good deal.

I'd definitely show them some of the LESS expensive ones I want in particular. I might even suggest they get me things like doll clothes/shoes/wigs/eyes/etc that I've been really wanting instead! Again, I'd show them wishlists I have on different sites. I'm at one of those points where most of my dolls are just wearing temporary outfits/wigs while I work on building up their looks, so in a way I'd appreciate those things more than another doll just now! Unless it's, like, my grail or something . . but finding him would be an actual miracle ahaha.

 

Then they better have a fat wallet because I'm taking them for all they're worth!

 

As others have said, if its okay economically for them and they want to, I would be excited. I do kind of treat dolls as something that comes to me instead of me actively looking for a right one.

 

I'm happy for my partner getting himself stuff he wants for whatever the cost and me spending on things I want, but we have agreed not to gift expensive things to each other so we don't have the pressure to match it up financially. So in this sense, I don't think buying a doll for a gift would ever come in question, really. I'd definitely cherish it should it be the case, however! I'd just hope it was an in-stock option

 

My husband "gifted" me a doll for my birthday a couple of years ago, in the sense that he gave me the money so I could purchase it. It was really sweet of him and, while that doll isn't my favorite for a few reasons, the fact he got it for me makes it special. He's always side-eyed the heck out of my doll hobby- he appreciates that I enjoy it and he's very supportive, but the cost makes him uncomfortable. Once I kind of got through to him that a lot of his "totally necessary and not for fun" things are indeed for fun (tools that aren't actually for house projects, replacing his car that died with a hybrid he really wanted instead of a cheaper car, etc), he started understanding it more. I'm fairly certain he actually ordered me a doll for Christmas, based on a snippet of a text conversation he accidentally showed me, and I'm very excited!

 

My bf has bought me other eccentric things that I collect that cost a fraction of what bjds usually go for, but I don't for a secod doubt that he wouldn't buy me one if the chance to do so came. Of course he would ask me for guidance and I would give him step-by-step instructions on what doll to buy and from where and how
So yes, I would accept a doll as a gift from him! And there's no chance he could get me one I wouldn't like, he knows me very well