Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

My ex bought me my grail doll as a present for passing my exams. It was a complete surprise, especially the fact that he had taken note of the doll I really wanted. Only problem I have now it that I do associate that doll with him a little -_-; I've totally changed his style and like him more again now!

My current boyfriend has suggested that he would like to buy me a doll at some point but I've told him not to!! Can't do much if someone surprises you but I told my current boyfriend that I'd rather him spend his money on fixing his car than buying me a doll!!

 

That's exactly what my boyfriend is up to at the moment... We are together for nearly 5 months now and he is just getting crazy with the idea of buying me a doll. I don't know how many times I have told him not to but he doesn't care. So he will buy me a LTF Lewi these days and if I would let him he would also buy me tan Bory and Crobidoll Choco because he just got his tax refund...

 

My husband has paid for several dolls and gave me, totally unexpected a pkf pong when i was in hospital. He had bought it previously "to cheer me up if there would ever be a bad time".

But perhaps its differet with husbands, I would not let a boyfriend in a more casual relationship pay so much money for me.

 

I don't think my relationship is casual, it's just 5 months but we had to go through more hard times other couples have to go through in a few years... This is the most serious relationship I ever had, it's the first time I wanna be with someone for the rest of my life. That being said, if we should ever break up anyways it wouldn't be a problem if the doll he will buy me will remind me of him.

But I have the same problem, cyberspacegirl, I just don't want him to spend that much money on me. But he wants to buy me something because I gave him so much strength during the last months and if I won't let him buy a doll he will buy me something else just trying to make me happy. I'm just so bad at getting presents and I don't really want him to do that...

 

I agree with cyberspacegirl that I certainly wouldnt let a Boyfriend spend so much money on me. It's too much for them to blow on a present before the relationship is truely serious, equally, theres too much chance of the relationship souring and if you break up, I feel like the doll could be ruined by an exs' memory.

However, in more serious relationships, engagements, marriages, civil partnerships, etc, so long as the money permits, I think having your partner spoil you in this way is really sweet. I would probably still protest if my fiancèe wanted to spend that much on me but if he went away and did so nonetheless i'd be absolutely over the moon!

What if they got you a doll you didn't like? Would you sell it?
I thik that the wonderful thing about this hobby is that it's /so/ versatile. I've quite frequently seen dolls that i've absolutely hated (like the DC Cyril) until I've gone away and looked at a mountain of pictures of them in different colours, outfits, wigs, eyes, faceups, some with customisations, etc etc, at which point i've fallen head over heels.

I think my partner has a pretty good idea of my tastes, but if he did but me something I didn't like i'd never sell it. I think the meer fact that it was a gift from him would instantly make me fond towards it, and then a little effort and trial and error would eventually do the rest. I'd never sell it.

 

If he is not bringing himself into financial problems and he is sure thats how he wants to spend it....it is HIS money and if he wants to spend it on a frivolous gift for you...why stop him.

 

It's not that he would be running into debt but he could use the money much better, like renovating his apartment. And I always feel bad if someone gives me presents that I could never give back. Not like I would want to give him a doll, but I could never give him something that costs the same. I know it's not about money but in the end it's still a lot of money anyways...

 

My partner and I have a joint bank account, so technically... anything he bought me, I would have also bought, and anything I buy myself is also a gift from him. It makes getting surprises for each other really hard.

Prior to him, if anyone I'd been dating had bought me a doll I probably would have refused the gift and ended the relationship because that would've been way too much money and would've meant he was way more into the relationship than I was.

 

If my boyfriend bought me a doll as a surprise present or something I'd probably be really happy about it, and unless he got me something that's really not my taste I'd probably keep it. (I think we have similar tastes in dolls? He's good at picking things I like, anyway.) I'm not sure what I'd do if he gets something I don't like, though. I'd probably try to customize it to my tastes and experiment with different looks, and if that doesn't work out I'd let him know that I'm going to try selling it.

If he suggests buying one for me, on the other hand, I'd say no-- he spends enough on me as it is and I'd probably feel incredibly guilty for him to drop that much money on me at one go if I knew about it beforehand.

In any other relationship I think I'd be a lot more hesitant to let a boyfriend/girlfriend of mine buy me such an expensive gift unless we were together for a long time, but this is just theorizing without experience ha.

 

My brother bought me 2 (cheap) dolls for my birthday last year: A RS Song which I actually like and kept and a BBB Weylin which was the ugliest most poorly engineered thing I had ever seen and I traded away. Still, I was happy until the next month when he made me pay him back for them. WTF If I was going to spend like $300 that I didn't have I wouldn't have gotten those dolls I would have bought a kid delf + shoes/eyes/etc...or a Volks 4 sisters head or SWD school A head -_-

 

My boyfriend and I put our money together anyways, so it only matters, who is ordering. I would check on my order every hour or so and would be so impatient when ordering myself, so the last two dolls I wanted to get were ordered by him, so I can have my head free. And I can't ask him about the order status, either. ^^
But I am sure I would be bothered, if he got me a doll without me knowing. If that was a doll I didn't like, I'd still want to bring myself to like it. But it'd probably end up somewhere in the corner and I'd sell it eventually. And that would be just sad. T_T

 

I'm not sure.I really never like to get presents from people and often scold them for doing so. I'd feel like I didn't deserve it and probably be a little upset that he went and spent all of that money on me. At the same time,it'd be a very sweet gesture. I wouldn't sell it, even if I wasn't in love with the doll.

 

i am very sure i refuse the will of my lover to buy me (for unstable relationship too is the reason) because most of any reasons, my lover's taste of doll maybe different from mine.

but if my lover wanted to lent money and agreed to layaway, i am be happy to!

 

My husband bought me a doll for Christmas last year, but I think it would be different with a boyfriend. To me it depends on how long you've been together (general you, of course). If it was a very long-term, dedicated relationship (like one that lasts for years) then sure, if that person isn't going into debt to get you a doll, then why not? But if we had only been together a few months, then I wouldn't let a boyfriend spend that much on me.

 

Technically, my boyfriend and I bought all my dolls together since we share our money and have been with each other for almost 8 years.

If our relationship was still new, I would probably feel a little uncomfortable with him spending that much on me.

 

Currently, I have bought all of my dolls myself. If my boyfriend wanted to buy me one, I wouldn't have a problem with that as we've been dating for almost 6 years now, and planning to get married next year. He knows what's on my wishlist and what my preferences are, so I wouldn't be surprised if this Christmas he got me a doll. Most likely he would want me to be involved in the ordering process to ensure I got everything I wanted, and then wouldn't let me open it until Chrismas.

 

If I had a boyfriend or girlfriend, I would honestly not want them to buy me a doll. These dolls are expensive, and I would hate for my partner to buy me a doll and I not like it or not be able to bond with it.

Now if my partner bought me a doll anyway, I would try my best to love it... and if they ended up buying me a doll I'd had my eyes one, or even one of my grail dolls....I'd probably cry XD

 

My husband has bought me dolls. When he was still just a boyfriend, he bought me a 1/6 Obitsu for the holidays (this was before I was into resin. I got my first resin a week before my wedding and paid for him myself).

Since then, he's usually bought me resin for holidays and birthday, but he has bought me two just because. And they mean the most because it wasn't an obligation, just goodness of his heart. He bought me my Ringdoll Valo two summers ago. His grandmother passed away and he got some inheritance. I'd been making over Valo and MoC had one in stock, so he got him! The other surprise was my BBD Draven. I'd had a horrible day at work and just all around bad week and I was so upset. He asked me what would make it better and I said "Blueblood Draven"....just being pouty and not seriously expecting it at ALL.....and he said "Ok, order him on my credit card" I about died! Needless to say, my week got better!

My rp life partner has also bought medolls. She got me my DiM MNM Yazoo head for Christmas. I had no character for him but kept eyeing one on the MP, so she sent me the money and told me to buy him.

I guess I've been lucky as far as getting dolls I want from others. Most know me well enough to know what's on my wishlist or they just ask me or tell me to order it. I think my biggest surprise doll was my IslandDoll Kevin from my sister. I'd made over how cute he was but had no plans to buy him. She surprised me with him for my birthday and I was delighted!

IF somebody gave me a doll I didn't want or like, I'd probably try to bond with it anyway because it was a gift. Though I'm very close with people who buy me resin, we all have an understanding, I think, that if it doesn't fit right, then it just isn't right. We usually prefer to ask each other about gifts before buying. but I think feelings would not be hurt if one of us received a doll we didn't bond with and sold it or traded it to get one we liked better. I know if I bought a doll for my sister or rp partner, if she didn't like it at all, I'd rather her get one she loves more. In a way, she'd still be using the money I spent on her to get what she loves, so it's still kind of a gift from me.

 

Considering the state of his finances, I would strongly discourage my sweetheart from buying me a doll. if he offered to get something doll-related such as wigs, or offered to help pay for the shipping, then I wouldn't mind.

 

Honestly? I'd absolutely love it. I don't care how far in the relationship is, it's his decision to do it.

If we break up, well, yeah the doll might remind me of him. But in situations like that EVERYTHING reminds you of him. That doesn't mean I'm going to stop eating Malteasers because he ate them and they make me think of him, or hack off my thigh because he touched it and I can remember how that felt. The doll can't help that it was bought by him, I'm going to keep it and I'm going to keep eating Malteasers.

Alternatively if I never liked the doll much all along I'll sell it and use the money to get a doll I want haha

I buy a lot of my dolls during bad times to make me feel better, they don't remind me of the bad times, they just make me feel better.

 

I'd be incredibly surprised and ESTATIC! I would not worry about the choice of doll because my husband knows my tastes very well and the things I look for in a doll. He's already said if he bought me a doll he'd get me a pukifee Pong.

 

I wouldn't mind someone I was married to/in a civil partnership with/other equivalent long-term relationship with buying me a doll, but I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with a boyfriend/girlfriend/etc. buying me a doll. I wouldn't want to risk no longer wanting it if the relationship went sour, and I'd also feel uncomfortable having someone spend that much money on me.

 

My partner and I have bought each other dolls before -- but I'm not sure if this counts, seeing as we are both in the hobby together. I know which dolls she wants and she knows my tastes enough to be able to safely get a doll that I would enjoy. However, bills and real life expenses always come first.

 

My boyfriend has talked of buying me dolls before, but has yet to actually buy one, mostly because the dolls I collect are way above what he has left at the end of the month. I am kind of glad that he doesn't, to tell the truth. Ultimately, we usually work together on it. Say I buy a doll on layaway, he sometimes takes over a little more of our monthly expenses so I can finish a layaway quicker. He only has one doll, but if he wanted to get another, I would feel comfortable taking in more of the monthly expenses so he could do the same, as well.

 

If my boyfriend buys me my grail doll without asking me, I will be over the moon. Because that means he takes note of what I like. I will not feel uneasy receiving such a gift whether he is my hubby, my boyfriend of 8 years or even just 8 months. It's more a matter of his financial state. As long as its within his comfortable means, I will love to be pampered. I have 2 dolls this year who are gifts from my current bf with whom i have been together for less than a year. He can't tell one doll from the next so when he wants to pamper me, I choose what dolls I like. In this case, I don't think breaking up will affect my love for the dolls. And if I do fall out of love with the doll, I will rehome the doll whether or not we are still together cos to him, it's the act of buying me something I like and not the specific doll itself. Ironically, he is cool about buying dolls/doll stuff for me but not other stuff like bags etc.

 

Honestly, I wouldn't be happy if my current BF buys a doll. I hate it when he pays for me. He has more important things to buy than gifts for me. Now, if he offered to pay shipping or get my doll a wig? I would be happy. But I'd rather he pay for school or his car, than my hobby.If he was more financially sound? I might be okay with it, if it was on the cheaper side, or if we bought it together. But, I don't see my current Bf and I lasting a long time, and that is another factor. If my hubby wanted to buy me a doll, it'd be a sweet gesture.

 

My girlfriend is gonna help me get my second doll together...does that count? So far she has agreed to help me get the head. (If I can't get the last $20.)

I need to sort of frankendoll/mod/hybrid the character...so I am buying pieces, and it will most likely be a slow process, with resin matching and all that.

But we've been together for almost 4 years...and she's always pitched in to help me get things I wouldn't be able too on my own. This is the first time she's been introduced to my doll hobbies though.

I never ask for anything, never been the type to ask. I like trying to do things on my own...but with her I've learned that it is ok to ask for a little help.


Now, I would never want her to buy me a full doll. That's just too much money in my opinion (for the ones I like, at least), I'd feel weird about it. However, it is a gift, and I would cherish it as such.

If we went our separate ways, I would still cherish that doll. My girlfriend has been a positive influence on my life, and is also my best friend. So the doll would be that little slice of heaven that I would get to keep. If that makes sense....?

I know I want to buy her a piggy pipos tho... >.> *hypocrite*

 

I've been with my boyfriend for five years and he's actually getting me a doll for christmas. Once upon a time I would have freaked out in a bad way if he spent so much on me, but things are different now. I feel secure knowing we'll be around each other for a long time and so big gifts like dolls don't seem like such a commitment (since the commitment is already there).

That being said, I would never ask him to get me a 300$ doll or something like that. I'm looking at 200$ or less. And I feel guilty asking for that much.

And I'll be picking the doll out. He knows me well enough to pick a doll on his own, and I told him that, but he still wants me to pick it out to be sure bc of the cost. I think it's sweet. I'd rather him get me a doll I'll love forever than another stuffed animal, chocolates I don't ever eat, or flowers that die in a week.

 

Very much agree! And as expensive as flowers can be, I'd rather just have the doll item anyway!

But I'm noticing a lot of people saying they'd "feel bad" for receiving a gift. Why? This is a concept I can't really comprehend. (I don't mean demanding the gift, I mean if they choose freely to do it.) If the person wants to give you something, and it will make them happy to do so....and it is a doll you'd be happy to own....how is this shared happiness a problem? How can it be wrong or bad to feel happy?

 

I'd let him. My husband likes the creative process and craftsmanship of BJDs and enjoys seeing what I and others do with them. If he offered/wanted to buy me a new doll, I think it'd be fun for us to work together on finding and picking one.

 

Being given a gift automatically creates a sense of needing to give something back of equal or more value. This can create unwanted tension between you and the gift-giver, especially in a relationship. Even if they say it a thousand times they don't want anything back, there's still that feeling that you should be able to give back. To return the favor. If that is not possible, yeah people start feeling bad!

And besides, a lot of people struggle with self-worth issues - deep down, some of us even feel like we're not even worth to be loved in the first place, let alone be given gifts of more than $100. Something as big as a doll or an iPad or even a nice dinner can create a lot of insecurity.

I would absolutely refuse such a big gift. I'm in no need of extra dolls and while the gesture is of course, heartbreakingly sweet, being given something so expensive will just freak me out and trigger my insecurities. Luckily my boyfriend knows this and will let me know in advance when he plans on getting me something expensive (and of course, I will try my best to give back as much as I can). I want equality in my relationship and gifting expensive dollies does not belong there ;p I dunno, I feel belittled I guess?

Still, it is absolutely the sweetest thing to give a doll of course - heck, I would not have any problem giving dolls to others! x'D But I would understand if the one receiving it would feel as objected to it as I do, so... Call me a hypocrite, but I am harsher to myself than to others ;p

 

I have to agree with what people here are saying about having my s/o being financially stable. Or at least, that the gift given wasn't outside their means. Personally, I think that one can get a really decent msd for less than $300 if you pay attention to the Marketplace.

I'm actually planning on buying my best friend a doll, so we're working together to find which molds she likes and what sort of dolls. I promised her I wouldn't let her find out how much they cost, mostly because I'm going to find several she likes and pick one of those to give to her. For me, the reason to give a doll is to share my hobby with someone I love, and since she appreciates the hobby and would get a doll of her own if she had the money, why not?

However, I'd really hope my s/o had taken the time to pick a doll mold I liked, or I might have trouble falling in love with it. ):

 

I would think it would totally depend upon the relationship you had. AND... you can't stop someone from surprising you. I had a friend give me one of her dolls--it was a total surprise.

And no, I am not selling the doll, even though it wasn't ever a condition of the gift (since there were no conditions at all). I'm just sort of attached and sentimental that way... I don't like selling gifts that are that major. If it was something small and unimportant... some shoes or a wig, no big deal. But a doll is important. And I'll always remember how wonderful my friend was to give her to me. That's the big thing about it... If we somehow had a falling out--? I don't know what I'd do then, but probably wouldn't sell the doll just because of that, but would definitely not feel I had to keep the doll, either!

BUT--as a rule, I don't want dolls as gifts! I am picky about what dolls I want and I can afford to get what I want and don't want someone spending their hard-earned money on dolls for me. But if someone really wants to do something, what can you do?

 

It would be nice if my boyfriend did buy me one, but again, I'd rather he spend the money on things that we could do together (like playing Magic!)

Besides, it's something that he's not too versed on so I'd have to help a lot with it~ and I know that he'd end up finding it a bit weird (although he'd still love me regardless) XD

And if we ever did break up, I wouldn't sell it. I'd probably change the style of it so that it becomes less reminiscent of the time we spent together and more a new style on its own OwOb

 

My husband (then boyfriend) was subject to me constantly talking about what I wanted for my first BJD. I would look at eyes and wigs and one doll in particular. A couple of days before our wedding, we go to meet up with his dad and his dad gives us a gift of quite a bit of money. We were both shocked and very grateful but I didn't think anything else of it. In fact, I wondered about putting it towards our honeymoon.

We get in the car to leave and he turns to me and says: "I'm buying a really nice FX lightsaber. You still want that doll of yours?" I flipped and was like "OMG YEEEESSSSS~ are you sure I can have it?" A month later, got my boy in the mail~!

 

I would actually be really nervous to let a partner buy me a doll. For a start I would feel horrible if they got me one I just didn't like and felt obligated to keep. Secondly I would feel guilty about price. And lastly Id be scared about the outcome. Even if they got me a doll from my wishlist that I loved, id be worried about the relationship breaking down and then been left looking at a doll I once really wanted and possibly been sad/angry and the person who got me them. I don't want to emotionally link a doll to someone. I realise I may be over thinking this but still!

 

I wouldn't let anyone buy me one. If they wanted to add a little to the sum for a birthday that would be ok though.

 

I actually wouldn't mind a person, be it boyfriend, husband, just a close friend or anyone buying me a doll. I guess there'd be a part of me that would feel bad, in a 'why didn't you get something you wanted instead?' way, but I'd definitely appreciate it and love the doll, regardless if I broke up with that boy, or whatever, even if it was a doll that I didn't like at all, I'd find a way to make it work for me! Maybe that's because I don't expect anyone to buy me a doll, since I don't have a boyfriend and none of my friends can actually afford a full doll, haha.

 

I'm married, and my husband enjoys getting gifts for me. However, I am more of the practical sort, and would rather we just take care of the family and the house instead of get pricey gifts for each other. In the past, I've gotten jewelry, clothes, shoes, handbags, gift cards, which I've enjoyed, but felt that the money could have been used for other more necessary reasons. He's recently expressed interest in gifting me with a doll...but I've so far told him that I don't want him to buy me one. I prefer to keep the doll purchases as something I fund myself, whether it be by selling things I no longer use, or saving up on my own. I guess my reason for this is because it's my doll collection, and the dolls make me happy, but really have no effect on my husband other than him being happy for me. I'd rather we spend the money on something we could both enjoy--like spending time together, just my husband and I, going out to eat at a nice restaurant, and maybe going to the movies or to a concert.

 

I haven't had anyone to buy me a doll. However my girlfriend gave one of her dolls to me as she felt she couldn't bond with it and I on the other hand fell in love. At first I was super uncomfortable about taking the doll when I knew how much money it had cost. We had only been together for a couple of months and it just felt wrong! I knew I could never do anything to her that would even compare to this...
But, after couple of weeks thinking, I decided to take her. I know I would give it back to her anytime if she wanted, or if we broke up. I'm still not a 100% sure if I made the right decision : D

But if she, or someone else would want to actually buy me a doll in the future I would still be strongly against it, mainly because of the money. I have some money on my bank account that I got since my mother passed, so it would be ridiculous to think that someone with less money than me would my an expensive but in the long run useless luxury item to me. A doll wig or clothes for gifts are fine, other than that would cause me more guilt headache than happiness I think.

 

If my boyfriend wanted to buy me a doll, I would let him. However we are getting very serious and may get engaged any time now. I think it's different for someone who is with a guy/girl in a relationship that probably would not last much longer. Without wanting it to or not, the doll will probably become an association for the person that left you/you left.

I spend hundreds of dollars sometimes for his model airplane hobby, so why shouldn't he spend hundreds on my hobby? I think he has been hinting at buying me a doll anyway!

 

My boyfriend kept saying he would buy me a doll for about 6 months and I kept telling him no. He eventually suckered me into telling him which doll I wanted and in doing so, I ended up giving him the link to where he could buy it! He then teased that he was going to just do it behind my back until I finally just gave in.

I still call the doll his, though. Just because he bought it. P: Which he's fine with. xD

 

My 2 dolls were paid for by my boyfriend of 2 years. He's actually planning to get me either outfits or a doll as an engagement present. It was kind of cute to hear him describe it, saying he was glad I have small fingers because he can only afford an MSD XD
It's sweet, but I'm uncomfortable with the idea of people spending that much money on me, and my current dolls don't feel quite like mine. If he wants to chip in or something, I'm willing to count it as a birthday present but I want in to actually make my girls mine

 

Ok, we did it. I had to choose the doll I wanted and he gave me the money for it. He would never choose a doll himself because he isn't enough into BJDs yet to know what exactly I want. And now I am really happy with it, even though we talk about a lot of money here. We are getting really serious even if some people say it's too early. I can't wait to get this doll, she will probably be my favourite! I'm just not sure how to stop him from buying me a doll every month now... o.O

 

I don't do the dating thing at all, but I have had friends give me dolls, which I have really appreciated, and have given friends dolls as gifts as well.

I certainly don't expect anything back from my friends because I enjoy giving them things, and I really don't care what they do with the gift once I give it to them. I don't buy into the whole idea that receiving a gift automatically makes me indebted to the gift giver or obligated to keep that gift forever. It's mine now, I can do what I want with it. If someone were to give me grief over that, they clearly don't know me very well at all and too bad?

I personally find more commonplace gifts like flowers a complete waste of money as well as just overall a dumb gift. I don't like flowers and they have no use besides smelling up a house. It shows more thought to buy something that is more tailored to the person's interests. My older sister did once try to see if she could buy me a doll for Christmas by talking to my best friend, and my best friend suggested to her to buy me a new camera instead as I could also use that to enjoy my dolls without ending up buying the wrong doll. That was a very surprising and much appreciated gift.

 

It would be up to him but I don't like people spending money on me so I would probably try to dissuade him Also depending on what he wanted to do I would probably encourage him to buy me one of the cheaper dolls on my list or even clothes or accessories for the dolls I already have.

 

Actually, my story is a bit different. My ex, with whom I had a relationship for two years, left me over a huge misunderstanding. When he came back to me a couple months later, asking me to take him back, he told me he'd bought me something he thought I'd appreciate. I didn't know until later that the 'somethibg' was a 400 dollar doll, and the first one I will be getting, too. He really knows how to impress a girl. ^_^;

 

If my boyfriend would buy me a doll I would be very happy and thankful that they would go this far to get me something I've always wanted. I would probably do the same in return and give them something of equal value to whatever they wanted. If they got me a doll I didn't like I would still keep it and treasure it because it came from someone I truly care and love about and I couldn't just take their hard work of getting one go to waste. I would never try to sell it because that would just be mean and rude.

 

My boyfriend of two years bought me my first doll. We're young, yes, but he gets an enormous allowance and his parents pay him to study more than an average student, so he can more than afford it. I would never ask him for a doll- the one he bought me was a Christmas present, it wasn't just for giggles. Of course I tried to persuade him not to, but once he gets an idea in his head of how to spoil me, it's hard to change his mind. (But I'd be lying if I said I didn't secretly like it.) I did actually end up selling her, but made sure it was 100% okay with him first, and I like to think I'm pretty good at gauging his reactions by now. However, the money that I got from selling her got me my grail doll, so all's well that ends well I suppose

 

A dear friend of mine got me a fullset JID Isar for her birthday. Yeah, we have an odd relationship.

 

Well, receiving a doll as a gift wouldn't be new to me, my boy was a christmas present from a friend. I do, on occasion, feel a bit guilty that she spends so much money on me when I could never pay it back in any way (at least not within the foreseeable future), but on the other hand she knows that so it's her decision. Now, if it was a boyfriend/girlfriend it would depend on the state of the relationship; if it was a very new relationship I would get suspicious, if it was a serious one I would just be very very happy. And either way, if it went beyond words and they actually got me one, I would keep it, simply because I wouldn't have the heart to say no. That is, as long as they spent their own money and there were no strings attached.
As for getting a doll as a surprise, with no idea beforehand that I would get it, I hope everyone that knows me knows not to do that, because I don't handle surprises well at all, and something that big would be likely to cause me a mental breakdown

 

Ha! I would be very shocked considering how much they creep him out!

However, also, secretly thrilled.

 

I've bought my wife 4 dolls. I would never just pick one out at random, though; she picks them out, and I pay for them and save them for a special occasion. And she's getting me one for Christmas. She's going to a lot of trouble to make sure all the details are perfect, commissioning a faceup and getting a wig I like, and she's going to make him an outfit by hand, I think. I don't know *all* the details because he's supposed to be at least partially a surprise. lol

 

My twin sister bought me my first doll for our birthday. It's different, because we're a) siblings and b) twins, but I think if anyone but her bought me a doll I would feel uncomfortable.

 

First of all, I'd have to be the one picking the doll he purchased me, because I'm pretty picky on what sculpts I like and I don't really have any room or desire for dolls I'm not interested in. Secondly, I'd only accept a gift of that kind of monetary magnitude from someone I'd been with for a long time/was very serious with. Then again, I have difficulty accepting gifts anyways.

 

My ex never payed his half of the utilities, and often failed to give Christmas/Birthday presents, not just to me, but to his immediate family, so I would be pretty stunned if a future significant other gave me something so valuable. After more than eight years with HIM, the bar is set pretty low.

Having said that, I think that I would be pleased, because I also like to give extravagant gifts, as circumstances permit. It's fun as long as the other person isn't blatantly taking advantage of you. The only thing that might put me off of receiving such a gift is if it was given in the spirit of a bribe, with some sort of weighty expectation attached, rather than freely as something to make me happy, without ulterior motive. I would like to think that I've become a good enough judge of character to not date someone who would do that, but there's no predicting the future.

If I received a doll as a gift with no strings attached, I probably wouldn't ever sell it as long as I was still in a relationship with the person who gave it to me. Even if it wasn't my favorite sculpt, it could probably be modded to something that appealed to me more. If we broke up and the doll reminded me of painful things, then to the marketplace it would go.

 

Being the daughter of a skilled and hard-working florist, I can't help but mention that flowers as a gift aren't any more wasteful or thoughtless a gift than a doll, or plenty of other gifts with no immediate and obvious practical value. Of course it's a personal preference what kinds of gifts people like or give, but I feel compelled to point that out.


I always imagined myself to be the shameless type of girl who'd like being 'spoiled' by a boyfriend with gifts and things, regardless of how people seem to frown on such 'gold-digging' behavior. I'm selfish, materialistic, greedy, and I've never had a problem accepting and asking for gifts from family! But, well, I realized that when I'm actually confronted with some guy or friend trying to always treat me or cover my tab, at my core I'm not at all comfortable with it. I'll feel like I 'owe' them, and a part of me that's a mix of pride and responsibility will be tapping its foot in silent displeasure.

I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but at this point in time it seems like "There's no way I could accept such a thing!"? And, well, a doll is a very personal object (for me), not like things like flowers, or even doll clothes and things. If someone got me the doll as a gift, I would associate.

But then again, I wonder that maybe if I bothered to have a significant other, wouldn't I want to aim for that person to be someone that I'm comfortable and close enough with that I could consider accepting such a gift, just like I am with family? Hmm, and in that case I don't know. But I would think if such were the case I'd still ask for a cheaper doll. Even with family, the upper limits of my comfort level was to ask for one of the cheapest BJDs around at $110 for a birthday.

I can't imagine selling a doll that someone gave me; I'm too sentimental for that--about people, sure, but especially about objects and toys like dolls. Well, unless someone surprised me with a doll that I genuinely didn't like, like if I found it creepy. In that case, there's nothing that can fix that problem XD ! But if the doll itself isn't out of my 'aesthetic comfort zone' I would most likely give it my all to make the doll work for me, even if they don't fit perfectly in my collection. Though honestly, in the end I'd really prefer they ask me first what doll I'd like instead of try and 'surprise me', since my doll plans are rather specific.

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If they had the money and it was for an occasional that warranted it like a birthday or graduation I would have no problem with it. But given the kind of guys I date it would be highly unlikely.

 

My ex got me a Souldoll Delmia for Christmas one year - but I got him the same money's worth of his hobby. I didn't bond with her and so sold her eventually, but again, he sold some of his too. But of course I told him which doll I wanted, it's too much money to risk just for the element of surprise.