Say your Boyfriend/Girlfriend Wanted To Buy You A Doll,

My partner won't get me a doll, just because they don't know what ones I like, and I won't buy them a thing for their hobby either as a surprise. We'll ask each other "do you want this thing for you hobby, I can get it for you as a early present" type deal. But they did offer once to chip in for some doll parts with me, which is fine with me. As long as I know what I'm getting from them, and it's not a huge amount for them (for example, them buying groceries for the week vs getting me doll stuff), then I'm fine with it.

 

I would be happy and tell them the one I wanted but I don't have partner ^ ^ so if it was my family I would tell them the one I wanted

 

I don't like my boyfriends buying expensive things for me due to past experiences. I really cherish my dolls and I tend to immediately discard of items given to me after a relationship ends because they remind me too much of that person. I wouldn't want that to happen with a doll that I had grown attached to and made a bunch of stuff for.

If someone bought me a doll and we split up I would likely sell it or give it to someone I know would really love it.

 

I doubt my ex would have ever bought me a doll. If a future SO wanted to get me one, I would probably tell them that the thought was nice, but since BJDs are so expensive, I wouldn't want them doing it. If they were intent on getting me something doll related, I may ask for clothes instead of a whole new doll. If they did end up getting one I didn't like, I would probably still end up keeping it and trying to style it in a way that I would like because they tried. I would hope that they would understand if I didn't like the present.

 

If my boyfriend wasn't in school and had a steady paying job, I'd say go for it and love it! However, We are both still in university so that's out of the question. I never had any issue connecting things to ex's or stuff they gave me, because it's MY item now, therefore I no longer associate it with them. but that's just me.

 

My boyfriend helped me out with buying a doll, but I feel really guilty about it! He wants to buy me another one (or has mentioned it, at least) and I told him not to because of the guilt.

 

My partner has but it was for Christmas & I picked them out - they were only some Silkstone Kens do nothing to expensive. Now a bjd, no they are too pricey. Maybe an outfit I picked out for one of my boys otherwise it might be too small.

 

My partner does collect dolls and actually has more than I do at this point. We do mostly keep our dolls separated. They're not one coordinated collection.

It's great though. We are attracted to different aesthetics and have different end goals for our dolls. As a result, I get to handle and play with many different dolls that I may not have had the opportunity to otherwise.

It also means there are two people to help with research when the need arises. I have a partner to help me hunt down body comparisons. And critique my character ideas. And gently tell me when something just isn't working out. I have someone that I love and trust who is almost always willing to listen to my dolly rambling.

We sometimes disagree on dolls and it occasionally leads to playful teasing about purchasing a doll the other really dislikes – but that's just kind of a relationship thing. Dolls or no dolls. I think that sort of thing is bound to happen.

And even if I were to one day discover a doll I didn't like suddenly sitting in with the collection... Oh well. I can deal. I'd probably come to love it in time.

 

I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other. That said, my best friend bought me my first doll. It's a really meaningful present because SHE HATES DOLLS SO MUCH.

If I had a partner/SO that wanted to collect dolls, that would really rock. I currently live with my sister and she's a doll person, and our friend who also lives with us is now obsessed and just waiting to be able to buy a doll. But to have a boyfriend that shared the hobby with me would be really neat. Odd, because men my age (and women for that matter) aren't usually into dolls, but it would be cool.

I would definitely let my SO buy me doll stuff. A whole doll? That would depend on what kind of disposable income we had.

So do any of you know any matchmaking services for people who like bjds?

 

My girlfriend actually offered to assist me in a purchase for my birthday, if I had wanted. I told her no, of course, as I wasn't ready and even helping the doll would cost a pretty penny! Because you can't well say "Yes, a twenty will go a long way!" in this hobby! Ahah! But still, the fact she offered, completely genuine, was very touching, even though we never went in on a doll together.

 

As sweet as the thought is I'd have to decline because I have specific taste (unless they specifically ask me which doll I'd want). My best friend bought me doll furniture, but I really don't like it at all. I keep it out since she comes over a lot, but I'd never buy for it myself.

 

I've been eyeing a doll sculpt for years, she's really a dream doll to me. I told my boyfriend that one day, I will get her! We decided to only get her after we got married as a little gift to myself. But in less than 2 years, my hands got too itchy and I told my boyfriend that I want to get her now (because their order period is finally opened after a long while. Been stalking them. ) So I ordered her and got her head.

Then one day, my boyfriend confessed to me that he actually planned to purchase her secretly to propose to me with her.

Apparently, I ruined his plan! Hahahahaha!

He needs to think of a new plan now~

 

My girlfriend doesn't have a job, but has expressed interest in getting me he kind of gifts that I get her once she does (I bought her a doll last year.) since we talk a lot about the hobby, she'd know exactly which ones I want, so I wouldn't be worried about her getting me something I'd have to pretend to like.

@darkAisu I'm doing the same thing he was planning to! She has two characters that she's really attached to, and I plan to get her the second one, have him faceupped, and make him a wig and eyes, and surprise her with him and a ring before I leave for Universtiy.

 

I would say yes, but considering we share an income/savings it would kind of be me buying a doll XD

 

If my boyfriend wanted to buy me a doll within the next 1.5 to 2 years, I would say absolutely not. He's still working on his bachelor's degree and I would not be okay with him spending that kind of money on me while he's living on student loans. I would not object after we finally move in together, he buys a new car, we have some savings, and we've put a dent in paying back student loans. I've already told him what websites to avoid if he were to buy me a doll, so that he wouldn't accidentally purchase something unethical without realizing. I think he would ask what I wanted before buying just to make sure it would be something I'd love. In those sorts of situations, I always give him few options so it's still a surprise.

All of that being said, I wouldn't mind if he bought me a much cheaper fashion doll from my wishlist or an article of BJD clothing from Etsy. Any support he gives me with my doll hobby means the world to me. And I can't wait until I have a steady income so I can buy him fancy gifts as well.

 

My sweetie has bought me dolls on several occasions. He always asks which doll has caught my fancy before he buys him/her. If he were to surprise my with a doll he chosen on his own, I know I would love him/her. I would never sell for the simple fact that he put in a lot of effort and love to get me something that I would enjoy.

 

That would be cool if my fiancee got me a another MDD3 body with #6 head.

 

I'm will be very happpy :-)

 

I don`t think I would let them, they are just soo expensive so I would feel bad they spent so much money.

 

Oh, no not at all. He offered once and was visibly stunned when I told him the price. Not to mention that the ones I really want need to be hunted down second hand. I wouldn't let him spend that kind of money on me anyway. He's more than welcome to buy clothes, wigs, materials and tools though.

 

I thiiiiiink my boyfriend would loan money more so then go out and buy a doll. He would probably admit that he knows nothing about these kinds of dolls compared to me. Though I guess if he did I'd just tell him to go through in stock dolls at Denver Doll since I know I like just about any company they deal for.

He's offered to loan some money for a second doll of mine, but I ended up not needing it before. So yeah. No outright gifts.

 

I would be delighted if my spouse gifted me a doll. We talk about them often and discuss the different dolls we're interested in, so I'm confident that they would get me one that I would love dearly. On the off chance they got me one I didn't like, I would outfit them in a way that's my spouse likes and gift them back to them. (which was probably their plan all along, hahaha)

 

Even disregarding the issue of cost, I doubt my boyfriend would ever buy me a bjd, since we have other shared interests that he's way more familiar with. If he did, it would probably be only if he knew I wanted that one specifically or if it was of a character I really love.

If anything, it'd be more likely to be the other way around. He's not really interested in bjds in and of themselves, but there are certain characters that he collects figures of, and he would definitely appreciate a doll version of them as well. The Hatsune Miku DD is probably the top of the list, but I also like planning out how I'd make custom dolls for other characters that don't have official versions as a thought experiment.

 

I don't consider it my place to tell anyone what to do with their own personal money, but I'd feel wrong if I didn't at least try to explain that I wouldn't need such an expensive gift from them in order to be happy.

Also, part of me would probably wonder what horrible thing they might have done wrong, to feel the need to make such a huge purchase to compensate for it (not that it would work)...did they cheat on me? Steal my jewelry? Run into my car and make it look even worse than it already does?

If they went ahead with the plan and got me a doll I didn't like, I'd still keep it, because I see it the same way I see ugly holiday sweaters...it's who a gift comes from, and the thought that goes into buying/making it, that matters.

Besides, I can still give it whatever faceup/wig/outfit I want.

I'd only sell it if they ever actually did cheat on me/steal my jewelry/run into my car on purpose.

 

My husband has bought me doll parts, but never a doll. I wouldn't want him to.

That being said I love the puki parts he's bought me. It was a wonderful surprise.

 

I wouldn't say no if they were very serious about it, but I would probably make it a joint ownership doll. I would feel bad otherwise :,)

 

Dolls are so personal, I’d feel bad if my husband bought one for me and I didn’t like/love it. It would just sit on my shelf staring at me and I’d never be able to sell it without a guilty feeling. So I’d probably tell my husband if he wanted to buy me a doll to let me give him a list of ones I like so it’s still a little bit of a surprise but definitely something I would love haha.

 

2 out of 3 dolls I own are presents of my partner. Kinda makes me feel spoiled but I also try to spoil him with stuff and food he likes, so guess it is ok?
Idk I feel guilty all the time but usually he just does it.

 

Nobody who knows me would ever buy me a doll because I'm picky as hell. I've had people buy non-bjd dolls in the past and I didn't really take to any of them.

 

My boyfriend has bought me a head before (that was on sale), and plenty of accessories/wigs etc, think he contributed towards the body for the head he got me too... but he only gets them because I only ever want doll stuff for birthdays/Christmas, so he'll ask what I want and I'll give him the option of the doll thing I'm after, or I say I'll think of something else. 9/10 he goes with the doll thing since I want it most, and it saves him having to think

 

My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 years (very soon to be 19 years come this May), and we have gotten each other many dolls over the years. Early in my time in the hobby he loved taking photos of my dolls, but was kinda shy about them, and he worried he'd hurt one. So I got him an Obitsu girl so he could ease into how to handle the dolls with one of his own. The next year for X-Mas I got him an Iplehouse Luna, a doll he had been in love with for months, and had kept talking himself out of. For a little context he hates buying himself nice things he wants, but loves gifting others, so he'd have never gotten what is now one of his favorite dolls.

On the flip side of things for our ninth anniversary he got me (on layaway) a Soom Monzo full set every option. At the time it was the most costly doll I owned. One time talking about how he got me that doll at a con, a woman on learning how much the doll cost, got mad at her fiance cuz her engagement ring didn't cost as much as my doll. Me and my boyfriend still laugh over that.

He has gotten me dolls for a handful of holidays and reasons, and I likewise have gotten him a number of his dolls. Sometimes we pay each other back for cost sometimes it's fully a gift. For me I am super thankful that I can share this hobby with my partner, and that BJDs are something we can bond over and enjoy as a couple. And that we are ok in gifting each other such things, and that we know each other's tastes enough to do so.

 

I definitely said no for cost reasons, however my fiancee has ordered me a doll I had been wanting for a long time as a gift. I think it was extremely thoughtful of him to take note of who I wanted and he even asked for some customizations I had mentioned!

 

Well they would be welcome to, but only if it is a doll I like and would have gotten anyway, and only if I can involve in the ordering (my man knows about recasts and I've been informative, but illegal sellers are smart these days an can fool someone who is only "half inside" in the hobby.) I'm seriously trying to restrict the size of my collection as I do not have time to clothe them all. Therefore I couldn't justify him spending on a doll I didn't even originally want/need. Lucky for him, I have my eyes on a particular doll, but less lucky is that it costs over a grand.

It would be cool though if I ever have a liiiittle cheaper grail and my man decided to get it for me. I would want him to also decide the story for it and what style I'd make the face/clothes. In fact I do secretly hope my man would like dolls so we could do this together, but hey, I cannot help it. He just likes Porsche cars, racing and weird whiskeys, and I think he wouldn't be so happy if I gave him a doll. Of course he would pretend to be, but...

I have never gotten a doll as a gift or won one, so for sure it'd have its own feeling. At least when it comes to plants, I tend to like the ones I've been gifted by someone a lot more than the ones I just bought for myself. And I feel a thousand times more guilty if they die lol.

 

My ex was in the hobby too so we talked about dolls alot and she bought me my favorite doll. It bothered me a bit when we first split but that was many many years ago and its still my favorite. And recently my husband gave me the money to buy a doll since he didnt know how to order it for me. Both relationships were 5 plus years, anything less serious i would say no thank you.

 

I totally agree with you.

My exbf bought me a doll (that was like 10 years ago)and I ended paying every cent to him because I wasn't feeling very well with the fact of having something so expensive from him. I'm in a much different level of relationship with my husband and he supports all my hobbies and encourages them all. In fact, I had a bit of money saved from time ago and he pushed me to buy a BID on December because I was concerned about spending so much money in something selfish. But of course, it was my own money. I would feel touched if he wanted to get me a full doll, very sweet from him, but I would prefer spending that money on us, rather than on a doll.

 

I think as much as I love the idea I would feel guilty because dolls can be so expensive

 

We did nearly get a doll my husband wanted. He is not into dolls but when Volks and IOS released the Count of Monte Cristo fro the Gankutsuou anime he was pushing to get it. We ending up not doing so, but I imagine it'll be about the only time he wants a doll.
It would be nice if he was interested in getting his own doll but it's not his lane.

 

My SO has always bought me unique items for combined special occassions without me even angling for them. He is extremely attentive to random things I tend to blurt out. For example I just randomly complained about this one item being sold out everywhere and no longer being available and before I knew it I had it in my lap. I am extremely spoiled in that regard.

He has gifted me several tiny dolls that I still love dearly. He knows I'm extremely picky and won't just randomly buy me a whole doll that I've never mentioned before. He did buy me a faceplate once that he really loved without me ever mentioning it. I was surprised because I didn't expect it in the least and it was a character I would have never picked but I have warmed up to it since then and wouldn't miss it for the world since it was a precious gift.

On the other hand I've often gifted him several expensive gifts and off-topic dolls as well so in that regard we often break even. We keep saying we'll stop gifting each other but everytime again he keeps surprising me and it only feels natural for me to return the favor. He never expects me to though and I never expect to get anything either so that's why it's always a surprise if something does pop up.

 

My husband has brought me doll related things as gifts, He has also given me money for a doll I wanted to buy from the second hand market.
I've never recieved a doll as a surprise present we've always spoke about it before hand and I think I'd feel pretty guilty if he went out and brought me a very expensive new doll without my knowing and I didnt like it

 

My partner also have his doll... And to tell the truth, she is almost totally oppose my aesthetic style... but I still happy that my partner has something he like.

People tend to be happier when they have some active hobbies. As his partner I like to see him play and have fun in his hobbies as I do.

Some time I also buy stuff for my partner's doll, and he buy some for mine too

 

It's less him buying me a doll and more us making a joint decision... It's both of our money. Now if he was to surprise me with one? I dunno. He doesn't ask me about the hobby too much; I think he'd hunt for info first, because he knows EXACTLY what it's like to be in hobbies where the "wrong thing" is easy to buy as a gift - comic books, collectibles. "No guys, I know I said I like Fantastic Four but I don't read this spinoff series", "Yes I love Ahsoka, but I don't really like the dolls from the Destiny series" etc.

Knowing him, there would be no reason to return anything, no "I didn't want this one", and no danger of getting recasts. He's never gotten me a gift I haven't liked.

That being said, he knows that we definitely don't have the money to buy something new, so he'd more likely simply work with me on secondhand shopping and help me stay in a budget.

 

I have not got a boyfriend, but I don't want anybody to pay for my doll. I am not a hardcore collector. I can be more happy if he want to make me a doll chair, or help me build a diorama, than buy a doll I don't need. My mom gave my doll plushies. My friend give me buttons and other things for sewing. I was overjoyed because I like small presents better. So if my future boyfriend want to give me something doll releated, he needn't to pay too much for it, to make me really happy.

 

I still don't have any chance like this, but if it happens, I might say "YES", especially when it's the doll I always dreamt for, and that person is really really love and carea about me a lot! :p

 

My husband likes to buy me nice things that I will actually treasure. So he’s pretty pleased that it’s easy to find something he’s sure I’ll like.

Before I got into dolls, he was always uncertain and shopping made him anxious. I don’t know why though. I have all the gifts he’s ever given me and I think they’re precious. But, he gets anxiety shopping for other people. It’s a big deal to him.

 

I’m single, but a girl can dream, right?

l would hope they would consult me first. I actually keep a spreadsheet of things in the hobby that I want or plan to buy - which may or may not get shared as a list of gift ideas. That said, I’d prefer they get me a tiny or head/accessories than a full doll! $500+ just seems extravagant and sets a gift precedent that I don’t think we would necessarily need.

trust me, I’m equally happy with new pairs of eyes or clothes!

 

Honestly, I didn't think I would meet anyone who would ever buy me a doll.
I kinda figured if I ever found someone who really liked me for me that's all that would really matter.

I don't think I would want my bf to buy me something so pricey....so far he has found me a dollhouse, has bought me a Barbie and bought me a little Kelly doll so you never know he could happen upon something at a thrift store or Goodwill for all I know....the more he's around me the more he's going to be able to identify these thing so I wouldn't put it past him if he found something anyway.
It's just nice being with someone that likes me for me, including my dolls.

 

My GF and I discuss dolls all the time so she would pretty much know which doll to buy. And vice versa. She would know if she saw a Fairyland FLAM head or Trinity Doll Kate to buy it quick, so I'm confident she would know exactly what to buy. Even if it were something I hadn't seen yet, she knows my tastes in dolls.

It's nice having someone who not only tolerates my dolls but is into them herself.

 

I would be very grateful because I know they're expensive and for someone to buy something such as a doll are probably very kind hearted and truly care about you.

 

My husband got me my dream doll for a wedding present. Traditionally the bride gets diamonds or something but I barely wear jewelry. He was relieved to get me something I actually wanted and didn’t have to spend hours researching it(like diamond clarity, color, ect), he went to the website and bam, done!

We share finances now so he doesn’t buy my dolls but he ok’s my purchases, in a way we both bought them. But my wedding doll is the very special one that came only from him.

 

Hi, 18 year old me. I’m 22 now.

The girl in question never got a job, nor got you a birthday present in 5 years, but my, was she good at promises. I do wonder if she still has all my event tinies, which I asked her to return, or the doll I bought her, which...is hers. For reasons I won’t discuss on a public forum, you’re not with her any more, you don’t surprise her with a ring, thank every deity that people pray to.

My current stance on partners and dolls is that my girlfriend pays rent. And bills. And groceries. And for her car, and I live at home and do none of those things. I also have expensive tastes(Twigling, Iple, Lillycat, soom’s fantasy bodies.) I can never rationalize asking for a gift from the girl I love that costs double her rent when our dollar sucks (Twigling is... a lot in CAD). And I would have to ask. She couldn’t pull the sites out of midair, and guess where I shop, because she’s not in the hobby, but likes my dolls. Currently, I think I’d have to be exceptionally selfish to ask for something like that from her. Someday, when we’re out of school and both have high-paying jobs, that might be different. I think I’ve grown up a bit since I was 18, when my ex told me all the stories about the things she’d do for me, and I believed them, to now understand what’s reasonable to ask for. I’m a little proud of my changing answers.

 

I haven’t quite experienced this exactly like the prompt, but my husband is constantly encouraging me to buy dolls if he also likes their aesthetic. He’s really into my tinies with me, and I think it’s the cutest thing ever!

 

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I would definitely say no to such an offer. If they bought one as a surprise that I didn't like, I'd tell them, but as politely as possible. I'd then sell it on and give them the money back.

 

My partner bought me a doll as a birthday present once, but I did make sure he knew exactly which one to get, and it wasn't an expensive one. ^^; (it was Doll Factory Shikai)

I wouldn't want to have such an expensive gift without co-ordination to make sure it's right. Because dolls are one of those things, where it's very personal and tastes are unpredictable. I don't think I could accept a very expensive doll (even if I joke about it. Yes, it's very clear that I'm joking XD)

 

I currently don't have a partner but I'd imagine I'd have a lot of trouble accepting a bjd from a future girlfriend if she wanted to gift me one... I like to give expensive gifts, but I'm not very comfortable receiving them unless it's from my family.

 

I would be so excited.

 

I would be very shocked! My bf is so tight with money his wallet squeaks, but, he's offered freely to pay for some very, very expensive things for me and I've declined. He's helped me with vet expenses, bills and groceries when I was very ill, and that counts towards a lot. I don't know what I would do, but I would hope it was maybe something like an accessory or something specific I was hoping to find but just couldn't. I bought him a Figma for his birthday because he asked I not buy him any more clothes and a night out or weekend trip just wasn't possible. We're not big on gift-giving, so it would be such a shock if he bought me a gift and it was a doll. I doubt it will ever happen, which is okay.

 

i don't have a partner but one of the last dolls i got was a gift from my mom for my birthday. i think if its a special gift for a birthday or christmas like that one was i would be more comfortable with a significant other buying me a doll

 

Oh man, I think the hardest part for me would be them finding out how expensive they are!
I think a lot of people would be very surprised to know how expensive the BJD hobby is. And then what if they end up finding a recast because they don't know what they're looking for? I guess you could ask what their price point is and then send them a list of suggestions to pick from so there is still the element of surprise and buyer's choice, but you know that you will get something you'll like.

 

I would be excited because it means they really liked me I try not to feel guilty for things people do for me because they wanted to.