Other trans people here?

I do believe they assume every doll collector to be a girl, I know male collectors who get misgendered all the time online by people who don't know them. I'm also automatically "female" every time I reply nicely to something, why is being polite a feminine trait?
I was drawn to this hobby because I like taking pictures, I annoyed my friends a lot taking pictures of them and it's nice to have models who don't complain.
My collection did change a bit over the years, I originally thought I wouldn't buy male dolls and not go over 45cm, but the change happened before I figured out my gender so I can't tell if it was subconscious or just normal doll collection growth.

I now identify as non-binary. I kind of pass in person but most times I go out is for medical appointments so they eventually see my name on the sheet anyway...
I used to have my birth gender on my profile because I thought it didn't matter, that it's just something for people to call you with, but as i grew older it became so frustrating how others would assume a number of things based on gender. Technically the pronouns I like most are they/them, but I usually leave them out hoping they'd maybe ask or go neutral instead of assuming. My dolls are also all lgbt+ and it wasn't completely intentional.

 

I’m a nonbinary lesbian, and I typically use she/her, the more femme I feel, the more I like being referred to by a pronoun that isn’t she/her, because it foregrounds that I’m not a girl even when my femininity is something I enjoy and express. I made Valentine, one of my doll characters, to try that out, and I’ll be sharing pics of him soonish, but he was such an important character to me, because he gets to be incredibly femme, and he/him, and a lesbian, and he gave me a great space to explore my own identity and experience. I think dolls kind of make for a really interesting space to explore and express gender. I know making a lot of trans and nonbinary characters with the various dolls I have has been really meaningful for me.

 

I considering myself a nonbinary femme and I decided to put my pronouns in my forum title to try to make them very visible. I've found the community fairly okay, but I also have a rl friend who left the hobby as I was entering it whose main reason for leaving was transphobia inside and out of the hobby from being a trans man in a traditionally feminine hobby. So I've been a lot less hands-on with the community to avoid finding myself in a similar situation as him. I think the community here at least has been a lot better (I can't say if the transphobia he experiences was from here or not), but I can't speak to other parts of the community.

I eventually want to shell one of my characters who is a transfemme person who uses he/him pronouns. I've been looking for what bodies might work, but I think I may just look into modifying a body to suit him. I've also debated a "mini me" but that's a little more complicated, so we'll see.

 

that makes me so happy, hearing about other transfemme characters using he/him. If you need any help or mod advice, you can always shoot me a PM!

 

Thank you! I'll be sure to poke when I'm closer to shelling the character.

 

I'm neither trans nor men, but I have a trans bjd with sanded away breast and a magnet for men part. I'm not sure about this character's story as I already bought it in this condition, but maybe it was important)
Talking about real people, I hope you aren't truly mad at them as I believe they didn't want to hurt you.
The person who encouraged and delighted me in our hobby for a long time was a pen pal gay who was noticeably older than me. It was with him that my very beginnings of searching for dolls, characters, communicating and revealing one of my former personalities are connected. Even if we don't communicate any more I still have him in my memory as a very good person to whom I grateful.
Given how differently people present themselves and express themselves these days, I think it's possible to be prepared for more or less anything) However, for me it's also easy understand people who subconsciously think of those who collect dolls as women. In real life, I have yet to meet a single man interested in such a subject. Moreover, my partner's loyal attitude towards dolls and his willingness to support me in what I care about is already great progress...
It would be very interesting to see your doll)

 

I’m trans and my family was definitely confused when I came out to them because I have so many girly hobbies lol. I think that there are more trans people that you would think in hobbies like these because they are so niche and have a diverse community. I’m in many collectors groups for different dolls and people assume I’m female all the time. People just kind of default to assuming other people in the hobby are women if it’s already a female dominated hobby. Anyway it’s cool to see so many trans people in the hobby! Love yall so much!!

 

I myself am a nb transmasc guy,my boy dolls always looked a bit fem I also want a trans bjd with top surgery scars
I first doubted that I was trans cause I liked ''feminine'' things but now I know there are enough cis man who like ''feminine'' things to
as far as interaction goes so far they all have been gender neutral.

 

Whoops, turns out I am in fact a man! Although I still vibe with non-binary-ness, but it's like... with other trans people I can talk about nuance more, and how the way I'm a man is different from a totally binary man's experience?

 

*raises hand from the back* non-binary/gender-queer here, and it's been a trip. Heck, still is. Got one genderless doll who.. sort of happened by accident (Bought a female body, character turned out to not be female, one boobs-b-gone surgery later I'm jealous of their body).
My dolls have kind of become a save way for me to engage with the ends of the binary slider. I've had days where I felt super anxious/wrong when wearing skirts etc, but my girl dolls can wear all those cute outfits no problem, and I can enjoy those through them. At the same time I'll never have a Hot Male Bod (tm), but again, the dolls do look good.
Kind of playing with the idea of adding a Granado male doll to the collection, but just vague concepts so far.

 

I posted in this thread a while ago, but since then I have realized my gender identity better. I am transmale/Demi-Male. I only use male pronouns, and am working hard to transition. Hoping to get a legal name change later this year. Over my life my gender identity has changed grown and evolved, which is I feel pretty normal for a lot of us in the LGBTQ+ spectrums.

 

It's so awesome and comforting to see other LGBT people in general here. Also love to see men participating in the hobby (you're not unseen!) It's sad people get misgendered on here, it's always good to either not refer to someone in the third-person at all if you're unsure or review their information on their profile.

I'm Two-spirit (I am part Native American) but also use non-binary interchangeably. I use they and it pronouns, sometimes she if I'm feeling more girly or let my fiance call me that (he is trans-masculine). I like to think I'm a woman the same way a tomato is a fruit (only technically) I believe this is a really great hobby and community to truly be yourself.

 

I'm masc leaning genderfluid and use all pronouns! It's especially weird loving "girly" things like dolls and people assuming I'm a girl and then having to explain to them that I'm not, but I am sometimes LMAO. A lot of people still find rotating pronouns confusing. Which I get, but it's who I am and I can't change who I am. A lot of people in my life think that you're either a she/her, he/him, or they/them lol, not all of the above. Thankfully when I started university I found an amazing group of friends who are all queer and get me 100%! Dolls are also huge comfort items when it comes to these things too!

Something else I've also thought quite a bit about is that my birth name is my username and we can't change our usernames ahhhh. But it's a strange feeling because being genderfluid, I do partly identify with the gender I was assigned at birth and I honestly don't mind my birth name, but sometimes I kinda wish that I had made my username my chosen/brackets name which is Forest

 

Hi! I go by Jake/Eunha/Neko(ite), and a ton of other names

So, gender is confusing, but the best way to describe is trigender? Trans-masc most of the time, with some days feeling absolutely totally no gender at all (agender) and rarer still is feeling feminine, which is almost never. Pronoun-wise, I use He/Him, They/Them and It/Its, not She/Her unless the rare occasion of a feminine day.

 

i'm transmasc!

 

I'm still at the "what even am I??" stage, but it's definitely "not cis". Somewhere in the murky waters, closer to masculine than feminine. I bind, and generally prefer he/him tho I don't have problems with they/them or she/her. As with my sexuality, I generally say "I'm queer" cause it's a nice blanket term that encompasses so much murkiness xD

 

Trans enby here, so you aren't alone! I def tend to present more femme though, especially after my car accident since sometimes it's hard to wear a binder.

 

i realized i was trans in 2017 when i was 26 during my "break" from the hobby. im specifically tansmasc/non binary and two spirit (im black and native american) and i most of my dolls are male/andorgynous and lgbtq and wear both masc and femme styles...i've always liked bishounen boys with pretty long hair/ femme guys so i guess i shoulda realized i was trans sooner lol. its nice to see so many other trans ppl here, warms my heart and makes me feel less alone because despite being trans masc i still have "girly" hobbies such as doll collecting and crochetting which confuses some ppl and sometime i feel less masc for it...but seeing all you here...its great.

 

I'm trans non binary/ transmasc I even have a trans bjd all my guy bjds that I have/owned where fem and have/had long hair.

 

Hi! Non-binary / transmasc here. I was so pleasantly surprised to see different trans-related threads on DOA. I’ve never met other trans people in the hobby before so it’s incredibly cool to find out there are so many of us

 

i’m nonbinary transmasc and i’m noticing some more trans people here than bjd communities on other sites/apps which is really nice ! i love seeing so many accepting people in the hobby too

 

happy trans day of visibility (im 2 days late lol)

 

oh heck, now you've totally blown our 'invisible for the other 364' disguises

In all seriousness, I'm so happy to see this thread & how it keeps growing. So, chaotic af enby whose doll made them realise their non-gender ways, finally reporting for duty.

 

I'm trans. However, I don't really enjoy talking about it, it's generally just been a really terrible part of my life. But I chime in for solidarity, because I think it's been nice to see that there are so many other trans people (of all different flavors) in this hobby.
I think one of the best things, for me, about the hobby was the looser gender terms/ less cishet and binary gender people seemed to represent with their dolls than I was typically seeing in my life. I like cishet binary dolls too, but I have a fair few dolls who are just kind of back and forth all over the place because that feels perfectly fine and normal to me. I appreciate having a place to express that with no questions.
Those are my dolls I relate to the most, the ones who overall, are not really roped into one binary gender or another.

 

It's always nice to see other Transmasc Enbies who enjoy the hobby as well. It always feel like you're not alone really when you do know.

 

Transmasc as well, but I've been here since 2007 and only came out of the closet (both online and irl) a few years ago so understandably there is a lot of misgendering here. I try to pay no mind to it, I know its usually accidental. I just put pronouns in my tagline and carry on.

Sorry that you're getting misgendered, though! I know its an ick feeling when it happens.

I have one doll who is trans (ftm) and one who just enjoys drag haha. I've had the characters since maybe 2001? And had the dolls since 2013ish. Back before I came out, it really should have been a flag or something for my friends

 

Do you guys mod your dolls so they look trans? I find it a little frustrating that most doll bods are very stylised/idealistic, I want a boy with thick thighs like mine but also want him to be manly!

 

I have a handful of dolls that are modded to be trans! One of them has blushed in top surgery scars, and another of them is not modded but is a transform character on a “male” ringdoll body, which is curvy enough it looks like she’s started HRT honestly. I’ve seen some really good mods to make a feeple65 body male but with the same awesome curves as well.

 

I want one for my character now as I'm wondering which companies make thick thighs for male dolls but also sutble in muscle unless I can hybrid parts together of course. Anyways, he's a guy who gnc basically....though I have thought of making him trans too so if I decided I suppose I could try my hand at modding.

 

I figured out I was trans about a year ago. Oddly enough, my Lulu "came out" to me before I realized it about myself!

I'm a trans man, approaching 40, and am out of fucks to give what anybody thinks about a middle-aged man playing with dolls. :P

Meanwhile, Lucrezia has a (male) identical twin, so one of them pretty much had to be transgender for that to work.

 

I'm non-binary and I realized it about four years ago around the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. I was on a BJD hobby hiatus during that time but since getting back into the hobby I've ended up reimagining my first doll (who I previously thought of as a cis man) as non-binary. He's on one of the Fairyland default "male" bodies and I've debated modding his body to appear more transmasc, but I'm still on the fence about it. BJDs are such a great way to explore identity and gender expression and it makes me really happy to see other trans people in this hobby as well.

 

hello fellow trans doll enjoyers!! i'm transmasculine, myself! (recently questioning whether I'm actually nb, or just a sort of effeminate binary trans dude... I've been identifying as nb for over 10 years now so it feels weird to be questioning again). it's great to see other trans folks here!

I don't actually have any dolls yet (waiting on one to ship though!!) but I've noticed myself gravitating towards more androgynous dolls, or feminine boy dolls, which definitely aligns with my own sort of preferred presentation. maybe I'll end up using dolls to test looks for myself, lol

 

I am non-binary, and have gone through various more or less gender-confirming presentations of myself throughout the years... my current stance is that gender isn't real, it isn't in the room with us right now My mother tongue doesn't have gendered pronouns so it's been strange to grow into juggling between those roles in other places and languages, or to even have to put so much thought and effort into it, especially if none of it fits me well. It's been very freeing for me to collect and customise dolls and to explore all types of identities without using my own body for it (it can be tough publicly when people start asking irrelevant questions or pinning labels onto you because they see you presenting as something in their head... and sometimes it gets downright dangerous). I'm glad to see dolls are a safe space for so many of us like that

 

I'm transmasc nonbinary! He/they/it for me! I was a huge tomboy growing up and violently rejected anything "girly". But now that I'm old enough to have grown into my gender and who I am more fully, and express my gender identity, I actually like girly stuff! There is no gendered clothing to me anymore, I'll wear what I want, and my dolls are the same. I don't have any binary trans dolls, but I have an off-topic agender doll (they/them) I've been working on, and I hope to have more trans and enby dolls in the future!

 

Trans man here! I use he/him exclusively. I've identified as a man since ~2022 and had identified as non-binary before that since ~2009, so while some binary trans dudes don't "get" the whole nonbinary thing, I am very well acquainted with it. I used to say I don't have a lot of trans dolls, but I've recently looked at all the dolls I own and realize the trans dolls outnumber the non-trans dolls.

 

I’m transmac. It’s nice to see a lot of other trans members.

My doll is also transmasc, and I’ve ordered one that hasn’t arrived yet that’s nonbinary (male sculpt with cute anime face).