Yep! Well, sort of. I tell people I collect dolls, and let them fill in the blanks (which aren't always incorrect because I've got a few barbies too). Most of my dolls are dudes, which I feel is a bit further out there than lady dolls (which can be interpreted as porcelain dolls). I've never had a negative reaction to my dolls though, I just don't like explaining things, and I'm pretty private. The cost is also... a factor 'i dropped five hundy on a doll' is not something I go sharing (except to my friends who I know also have weird expensive hobbies like collecting swords lololol)
@Lady_addiction Sorry you've got to hear the "creepy" thing from someone, it never makes me feel very good either, even if people don't really mean it in a super negative way. I've noticed with some of my friends that the term seems to be a socially acceptable thing to say to indicate that dolls aren't really their thing. At first I kinda made light of it, but the more I hear it, the more it is getting to me. I've literally quit mentioning all the wonderful art and craft work I do for my dolls to a few specific people at this point for that reason. They'd be like "oh wow that's a cute outfit you're so talented.. your doll looks like a heroin addict though!" And I just couldn't take it. Yeah... my beautiful Alchemic Labo doll has some creases under her eyes so she looks a little tired So do I!! lol. I do think in my case it's just highlighted who I have associated with in many cases that are actually pretty judgmental upon reflection. So as much as it's hurtful, maybe it's also kind of enlightening as to whether those people are/were supportive of me in general all along. Regarding hiding in another form, while I do share a few images of my face up work with my mom because she likes art stuff, I'd never dare let her know how many dolls I have or the cost of them. We were pretty poor when I was growing up and additionally my dad was really one of those "mature adults don't have toys so no one in this house is gonna have toys" kinda people.. so my mom had maybe one or two dolls, I think. It's tough because I think she might appreciate how pretty they are, but like, it's just hard to imagine any conversation about the breadth of my collection actually being totally positive. On the contrary, and to end this on a positive note, I managed to marry someone who is a major creative-type and figure collector/painter. So he "gets it." And that is suuuuuuuper relieving. I work from home on my own business and sometimes will talk about being a bit lonely, and sometimes he'll say something like "well why don't you just talk to your coworkers?" .. meaning my dolls .. and it's just nice to know he means that lovingly, and as an acknowledgement of the fact that he knows they bring me joy and comfort.
@maxxxamillion, it is super shocking to me how at first it's easy not to mind the 'creepy' comments but over time, the repetition can get on one's nerves. I'm glad I'm not the only one with this issue! Your comment about how people misinterpret your dolls do make me wonder about my dolls. Currently, most of my dolls are not really finished, per se - like they're not really dressed properly or have wigs or faceups. So my family who know about them look at them and can see that they're a work in progress. Once they're completed though, there are likely more chances of judgment occurring depending on what the dolls look like and I wonder what associations they would have with the dolls. I am surprised that they loved my Doll Chateau Margarita who is super skinny. I've noticed Doll Chateau can be a love-it or hate-it kinda of doll aesthetic, but they found her to be gorgeous. I sympathize with hiding prices. Even though my family is aware of my hobby, I specifically refrain from mentioning price to my parents because I would likely never hear the end of it. My parents are very pragmatic people who, if they found out how much I spent on my dolls, would be upset that I didn't spend the money on something more useful, like a downpayment on a car or a house or a vacation somewhere. Also, I refrain from sharing my hobbies in general. I keep my BJD stuff and instagram under a pseudonym. However, lately, I've been feeling more challenged to share and let people know about my hobbies. It's so great that you've found a partner who accepts you and your dolls! That's one of my life goals right there!
I don't especially hide them from my friends, but I don't advertise it. Though with the most judgemental ones, I usually approach it under the angle of miniatures, as in "yeah, as you know I am a super crafty person, so I got some dolls to craft in-scale stuff for them". For some reasons, miniatures collecting is more well-received than doll-collecting? I don't really discuss my hobbies with my family, but I am "the cuckoolander" of the family, which is not very flattering, but which can also mean that my family tend to sweep a lot of things under a rug of "don't ask". XD But I would never discuss prices with either of them. Some friends could understand, but my family definitely would not. My parents lived a life of privation. And while they want the best for me, they would not take kindly as what they would see as "wasting money". Also, my aunt was a collector, but she collected expensive imported american plushies in East Asia in the middle of a war, which was considered impractical and wasteful by my parents (understandable, as most people were starving at the time). And they kind of extended that feeling to most expensive collections. I feel like they could understand if I explain that a) we are not at war b) it's my own money c) it could be drugs XD but I like keeping the peace and what they don't know won't hurt them, sooooo... I do hide my hobby from my family. But if my family discover my dolls I am comfortable shrugging it off and lying about the price if asked.
I definitely hid it from people (apart from my family) when I was in the hobby at a younger age. But now I'm a little older and I feel more comfortable with the friends I have now, so I don't mind mentioning it!! It's not something I loudly advertise, but I try not to feel shy about it either - even tho I do worry about what people may say >< Luckily my parents are pretty comfy about it all, especially my mum!
I don't talk about it to my family, especially my sister, because they just complain about how stupid it is to spend that much money on dolls. ( My sister spends a small fortune on gardening, but thats her thing.) My daughter got me into the dolls when she was in her teens. I've always liked dolls and even have a small collection of artist dolls. My husband is very supportive and that's all that matters to me. My son even has a puki.
I tell this with proud, as I am proud to say everything else that concerns me. I respect my personality and all my interests! If someone does not share this, it is their right, but usually my self-confidence stops people from teaching me.
Unfortunately I do. It’s more that I don’t talk about it. I can’t imagine a single one of my coworkers finding it cool. I’m guessing most people would say it’s weird. I already have enough weird hobbies and pets.
I ordered my first doll at the beginning of the month and told my boyfriend about it. He wasn't necessarily mean, it was definitely somewhat playful teasing that I didn't mind, but it was persistent, telling me that dolls are creepy and that I better not be "crazy". It started to get to me and I offered to just do the face-up for it and sell it at a higher price since it would basically be brand new but with face-up, but he got upset and made me promise him that I wouldn't sell it on his account, and that he would be okay as long as it isn't really around him. I feel bad, I know people are definitely going to find dolls scary the same way some people think clowns are scary, and I appreciate that he is still encouraging me to pursue this hobby... I just wish I could share it with him more because it's something I am really interested in. He's becoming more and more accustomed to it, he doesn't react as poorly as he used to when I mention it, and I'm hoping it'll grow on him. Other than him, I don't make it public or anything, but I don't hide it from my friends or family; they're all supportive.
Nope, if somebody can't handle my hobbies ( or at least be polite about them) then they aren't worth my time
Yes. Not to my family but to my friends.. I started to hide it because I fall in love with dolls in my early teenage and I thought my friends might not understand me to spend so much money on this hobby. But later I found it somehow comfortable to have distance from my normal life and have a secret hobby world that always there for me and support me whenever I want to run away from my daily life. So.. I guess I'll keep hiding it.
I hide my hobby from my friends. I just don't want them to know that I spend so much money on my hobby.
The only people who know are my siblings and my significant other. I thought about telling other people but I'm pretty hesitant about it cause I never know how they'll react. Usually I'll get the whole "they're going to murder you in your sleep" or something along those lines. So I try to avoid that. I even thought about bringing it up in an interview (when they asked what I do for hobbies) but decided to look it over and bring up other hobbies I'm into. So in other words, I don't tell strangers, only close family.
Non-collectors can be rude and ignorant and hurtful at the worst of times, awkward at the best of times. I've learned its best to test the waters with small, pretty, normal looking dolls when introducing a non-collector to see if they'll be positive or not towards the concept of BJD, before throwing opening my doll cabinet and they see everything from a green 1/6 doll to a 70cm EID. Anyone who says something so awful and transphobic like that to you is ignorant and not worth a second of your time, and quite frankly can stick it where the sun don't shine. There are countless of men in this hobby, both cis and trans alike. Having a hobby as creative and social as this one does not invalidate your gender, no matter what anyone else says or thinks. You are valid.
In the beginning I went through a phase of hiding it from people after getting some comments about it being too creepy/childish/'girly'. Whenever people would come over I would hide them in my closet until they left, and if I accidentally left one out I'd feel mortified. Then I had one person who would always use my dolls as an excuse to call me slurs and would even call my dolls slurs?? Which was really weird to me, overall they were just really nasty. After that it was kinda like a switch flipped and I honestly haven't felt any shame about being in this hobby ever since then. I don't really talk about this hobby to non-doll people, but I don't go out of my way to hide it anymore either.
Short answer: heck no. Wiishu goes pretty much everywhere with me---including things like the Pompeii exhibit---and is always out getting photographed. He helps me chronicle events in my life. If people are creeped out, that's their problem, not mine. Any negative comments they make reflects on them, not me. I'll be 70 this year. I started this less than a decade ago. This is not the strangest hobby I've had in a lifetime filled with hobbies. With one caveat: If you're hiding it because you're embarrassed about the amount of money you're spending, you might want to take a long hard look at your collection and buying habits. I've seen too get themselves into financial trouble in this hobby. If someone who actually cares about you expresses concern over the amount of money you're spending, especially if you find yourself constantly in debt paying off dolls...you might want to let them have their say and seriously consider their input. This hobby can become an addiction, and you really have to be careful. Sometimes it takes an outside opinion to help you see it.
I hide my hobby from everyone except for my mom, and even she doesn't completely understand it. I like having something that is a complete secret from everyone else. Also, I know that my friends and family would be judgmental about my dolls. I just don't want to deal with the "creepy", "weird", or "aren't you too old for that?" comments, so I keep to myself. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
A lot of people around me don't understand why I spent so much money on hobby. So I don't share dolls with them. I'd like to make friends with the one who love dolls. This forum is kind of important
Nope! I enjoy sharing my interests with others, and always have -- I tend not to realize if others are weirded out, though, probably due to being autistic my other hobbies are just as weird if not stranger to others, pinning insects and raising them is one of my favorite things. That usually offsets the "strangeness" of doll collecting I figure, if I am kind, and share that which I love with those around me, maybe they can become a bit more open minded to these sorts of things :3
I used to hide it but I don't any more. Initially I was embarrassed because I didn't think I deserved to have a hobby that had such a high price point, even if I could afford it. As I've gotten older, though, I've become a lot more shameless about the things I enjoy. If my hobbies are off-putting to some people, that's fine. I don't have time for people who are going to be rude to me over something as harmless as dolls! My wife is extremely supportive of anything that delights me, and all my friends are beloved weirdos of some stripe or another, so it's a non-issue.
I thought going into this hobby I would be more secretive about it, my own mysterious little hobby that few know about~ but turns out I'm a loud mouth and have told almost all my friends about my incoming dolls and my plans for them. Most of them were put off by it at first, saying things like "well...you made a choice" and "I mean...I guess..." and other expressions of disinterest and/or confusion. Now, at least my roomie let's me bounce ideas off him while I'm waiting for my dolls with little to no resistance to it. Though, I can't say what will happen when they are actually here LOL! my work friends seem mostly open to it too, at first mostly just shocked by the costs, but they realized they really shouldn't be talking since they're hobbies are kinda out there and can get pricey too
I tend to keep relatively quiet about my doll hobby because I've gotten some rude reactions in the past that were rather upsetting. My mom is also into dolls, so we gush over them together, and my partner will listen to me prattle on about them even though he has no interest in them himself. Between the two of them, I don't really feel the need to talk about dolls with anyone else, so I generally don't. I'm like this with most of my hobbies, honestly. If you're extremely close to me, I'll info-dump the heck out of you, and if you're not, you get passing comments about them when you ask what I'm up to.
I used to hide my dolls from my previous ex who had complete opposite personally as me (sporty, social, extrovert) and he thought that my plushies were childish, so I just hid my dolls from him to prevent any mockery. I don't hide my dolls from my family because I am very close to my family and when my siblings make funny comments I just take them slightly because I know this is a hobby I enjoy and they know that too, my brother is now used to my dolls so he doesn't mind them anymore, my dad is always interested in new dolls I get and he loves seeing me happy and my mom helps with sewing them clothes sometimes. I now have a new boyfriend who has the same personality as me, he loves my dolls, follows my doll instagram, shares my love for them and has even said that he wants a doll for himself. I love that he shares similar interests as me and that he supports everything I do, it makes me incredibly happy. So now with my current boyfriend I can be 100% myself and I am hanging out with my dolls more than ever and not being afraid of being judged or hiding my dolls. I consider myself lucky and I will never hide my dolls from anyone ever again. I don't care if they judge me
When I was much younger I was sort of embarrassed, but that was a long time ago. I even moved out of my bedroom into the spare room so my dolls could have the space. No one has ever said anything critical to me, but I feel like my friends don't understand the hobby even if they think my dolls look cool. I'm told I'm very charismatic in real life though, so I can count on one hand the amount of times people have been rude to me. Plus I've never been one for doing things everyone else is doing so collecting dolls is hardly one of the stranger things I can be accused of.
My mother doesn't "get" the hobby or what you do in it or what the fun is... She's told me so, but she usually likes dolls a lot (she sews her own cloth dolls that she sells... does she not see the irony?) so she doesn't mind and helps me with clothes for them. However I'm not telling anyone in my family about my current purchases because they were already asking why I got another doll when the last one arrived. I'll have to hide future dolls from my instagram etc for a while and wait to post box opening photos etc *sigh*. Since the pandemic started I've been told by family to stop spending much money, and save up. I understand what they mean but.... dolls....I can't D: I also have other hobbies like art (which is also my profession) and videogames. So I tend to... spend all my money. They wouldn't understand why I'm spending it on more dolls. Oh well. However, they have been very nice about me spending my money even though they worry about current economy. So I feel like I can't complain much really. I don't like hiding things from them but I also don't have to tell them everything I buy *shrug*
I try to, but sometimes it slips out My parents know about my bjds and that they cost $150+ (USD) each, but I hide the true value of my squad. I have always been super open with my sister. She knows their full value and who I have and who is incoming. She isn't in the hobby, but is always interested and knows that it makes me happy. I've yet to tell one of my best friends, as I'm worried that she will be super judgemental about it. I have told a couple of other close friends that I have bjds, but my wider friend group still thinks I am into play line dolls and customising them.
Some of my family knows about it. I just try not to tell them how much I spend on it! I've only felt comfortable telling one of my coworkers about this hobby, she admits she does not understand about it even when I try to explain it to the best of my ability but she thought it sounded neat. But yeah depending on how comfortable with certain people I will tell them about it and to a certain amount depending on how well I know them.
I only share it with online communities, my immediate family knows the extent of my collection but visitors and extended family do not see it. I’ve only shown one local friend my doll room and she loved it but she is the sweetest person I’ve ever met so if she had any negative thoughts she would not have said so. Then there’s my friend from high school that previously did not like dolls, I was hesitant to tell her about any of my dolls but she has come around to see the artistic aspects of them. I used to have my vintage childhood dolls in the guest room and it was my gauge to see how people reacted, if it was negative then I never told them about the doll room.
I'm fairly quiet but if it was ever brought up in a conversation, I would tell people. I have my dolls displayed so some of my friends know. It was one of my friends actually who encouraged me to get more dolls.
Me too! I do hide my dolls from certain friends and family that aren't accepting of it. Like they would make fun of them. Anyone who would make fun of my favorites, especially Silas or Lucien, is not worthy of seeing them in person.
I don't share my hobby with people except if I can't do otherwise p.e. very close relatives friends who know me from years and may visit my place. Certain people I may completely avoid, and are certain people I only talk about the weather with them
I don't hide my dolls, since everyone knows I've always loved and collected dolls my whole life What I do hide from everyone is the price point
I’m online dating now, and knowing when to mention, by the way, I have almost fifty 1/3 scale resin humans in my room who will all be staring at you when you enter is a difficult thing. All the people I’ve mentioned dolls to have thought they were cool so far! The way I explain it, they’re “1/3 scale recreations of my characters” and so it just seems like a quirky writer thing to most of the girls I date. I definitely wait until date number two to make any reference to my hobbies!
I don't discuss my dolls with most people (it's often a "you enjoy your weird hobby but I don't understand it), but if I know someone well enough to invite them over and they mention the dolls (no avoiding them in the little cabin I live in right now) I'll happily talk about them. Fortunately, I have lovely irl doll friends I can discuss doll stuff with
I do, I wish I didn’t have to and I totally think that no one should be mean and rude about someone’s passion and hobby, but no matter what I think those rude people will still be out there. I usually test the waters and if they seem rude I will never want to bring it up again with them.
I am definitely careful who I share my hobby with. Especially at work! One time, my Teams "greenscreen" background slipped and I am pretty sure the person on the phone saw my dolls. They asked if I was working in my kid's room.... I do not have kids!
My friends accept that I have/had a host of niche hobbies and interests over the years. I don't hide anything. If someone doesn't like it and speaks unkindly behind my back I simply cut them off. No one has had the nerve to say anything to my face, even strangers. Despite how I am online, apparently I give off a very different vibe in person. I was waiting with my mom at the ER once and a little old lady looked at me then said to my mom, "everyone should have a doberman like that"
I usually bring up my hobby with people I’m close with. My mom knows the most about doll-related stuff because she’s forced to hear me infodump 24/7 My close friends are aware of my hobby, but I don’t talk about it as much with them. I do hide it from strangers and acquaintances though, since I know a lot of people can be judgmental.
Short answer: yes, I hide it. Longer answer: Hobbies in general are extremely personal and often involve a lot of time/resources. One person's acceptable video game hobby is another person's nerd who doesn't get out enough. One person's devotion to a certain clothing brand is another person's waste of money on clout chasing. Any hobby you feel deeply enough about will be exposing you to criticism from people who don't "get it" and so this topic to me is more about how open and out there you are are a person and how trusting you are of others. I don't share my hobby with very many people now, a few friends and family and local doll people, but I think when I first started and I didn't have a good outlet I talked with a larger variety of people about them.
I've been bullied for doll collecting, so I find it a bit hard to tell about it to people. I don't exactly go out of my way to hide it, I just don't bring it up in conversation if it doesn't come naturally, and I have all my doll-related social media on separate accounts, so it doesn't peek through on my normal day to day life unless you come to my house, lol.
I don't hide my hobby but I definitely have stop telling certain family members when I get a new one. It's always some one off comment being a grown man collecting dolls or judging me for the price.
I don't hide it from family, and their reactions have ranged from polite to excited. I haven't told anyone else, but I don't actually have any friends so there's no one to share it with anyway... My BF (who I live with) makes it clear he doesn't like the style of most BJDs. That hurts sometimes, but he is supportive of the creative efforts that go into them, and he knows he has to put up with my dolls watching over our living room.
In my experience even some of the people who don't view doll collecting as weird in general (or can accept it as a quirk) react a bit judgemental when they learn how expensive BJDs are. For that reason there's only one person who knows about my dolls - my mom. And she's not exactly a fan of them either. A "waste of money" (my money, though). I'm really not planning to tell anyone else about it at the moment.
I know I already posted in this thread, but I just wanted to add that as of last month I officially passed the 100-doll mark. I think hiding my hobby is a ship that has well and truly sailed... I happen to love fantasy skintones, hooves, horns and elf ears, so that adds to the "creepy" factor for a lot of people. The only place I have to photograph my dolls is a tiny front yard, so I do that on a regular basis - I don't care who sees me. It used to bother me to be called "weird" - but now I own it.
I never hide my hobby since is part of my life. I love dolls and my Instagram acc is about my dolls and my cat, I never post personal stuff about myself there since I'm not a very social media persona.
Yes. I hide all "non-normal" hobbies from my colleagues and acquaintances (anything weeb-related, figures, etc). Especially in professional settings. I've had bad experiences before with people's judgement. I've already learned my lesson; I just want to blend in, go home, and enjoy my hobbies without attention. I don't want to share anything really memorable about me to colleagues, even the most bland political opinions. It almost always backfires. There's no benefits to sharing doll stuff with randos. My best friend, partner, and family know about the doll stuff. They don't really understand at all, so it's a neutral thing. But they don't need to understand; I appreciate their support of me. I just wish I had a doll friend irl. This is close to how I feel too.
I don't hide it per se, but I also don't freely offer the information. I just don't care to share personal details about myself to acquaintances or coworkers. A lot of those people are normies and don't care what a BJD is, let alone understand why we enjoy or spend so much time and money on them. I don't think it's worth the effort to explain all that when the truth is they don't genuinely care.
i don't necessarily hide my collection, but there are plenty of people in my life like family and such that really don't know or care what half of my hobbies are. only thing is the financial aspect for me, a lot of my peers struggle with finances in their own ways so i try to not..... flaunt? any of my expensive collections. i just don't want anyone to think they should be at a certain place financially just because i am able to buy and collect dolls
Dude, yes. "Normies" will automatically compare BJDs to Barbie... or say that they are creepy directly to your face. (Extremely rude to say to someone who spent $$$ + time + effort on a doll.) I showed my best friend some doll clothing I was making and she was like "why don't you make Barbie clothes instead, I bet that would sell for more because kids would buy it" I don't even want to make clothes to sell! It reminds me how people outside of fiber arts hobbies won't realize how expensive and time consuming they are and will ask you to just make them a sweater in your free time or something These kind of experiences make me try to be considerate when talking about someone else's hobby I know nothing about with them
The same ! I don't hide them, but I won't intentionally talk about it with those who don't play dolls. I don't really care if my friends at school or organisation see my Facebook story or instagram and know my love for dolls. I just don't think that we should talk about every of my hobby with everyone.
( • ᴖ • 。) I'm sorry they dared call your dolls creepy. I bet they'd get offended if you called their interests creepy, but you're just supposed to sit there and take it? It's so hypocritical. About the doll clothes, LOL. Yeah, I'm sure small children can appreciate the time and effort that went into making tiny clothes...right... People absolutely do not understand the time that goes into creating something from scratch and how that increases its value. But all of that is moot when you don't even want to sell the damn things! Arrgh I hope you future interacts are less frustrating for you!! Yes! Discussing different hobbies with different people is something we all probably do without even realizing it. No everyone cares about every interest you have, and that's okay. It's always more fun to talk to someone with knowledge of a hobby anyway vs someone brand new where you're explaining it rather than discussing (imo).
I don't hide it from my close circle of friends (only like 3 people) because I know I can trust them to be non-judgmental, but I would definitely hide it from any new friends until we reach a certain level of closeness or I can predetermine if they're cool with dolls / niche hobbies. I would like to someday be confident enough to just openly talk about my dolls to anyone though, as they're basically one of my top 3 main hobbies alongside art and sewing! I feel like there's a lot of stigma around adults partaking in things that are considered childish. Some of my family tolerates it, but I know not to talk about it around them too much or else they start talking about how its childish/stupid or a waste of money.
No. Life is too short to let people have that much power over you and I love my dolls besides. They're therapy for me and anyone who doesn't like them doesn't need to be around me. I've had people who don't like dolls see a post I've made online of them and pronounce them "creepy" and that just makes me laugh because I have the least creepy collection of dolls I think. I don't often invite somebody over but the few times I have mostly the reaction to my dolls has been pretty positive for the most part. Like me like my dolls and my cat. Can't do that then you don't really like me and we're not going to be friends.
I don’t hide none of my hobbies from people. To do so would make it appear as though I care about their opinion of me and I need their approval. I don’t need anyone’s approval for what makes me happy. As long as I am not doing anything vulgar or hurtful to someone its fair game for me to share my love of it.
Nope! If people can’t be normal about me having a fairly common hobby, that’s their problem, not mine. I don’t bring it up in every single situation, but only because it’s not always relevant.
I never go out of my way to bring up or talk about this hobby to anyone who isn't also already in the hobby with me. I haven't had any real awful experience, but I've spoken to people who have a genuine fear of dolls, so I'm always mindful of that. As someone with a horrific fear of my own that I am constantly dodging day to day, I don't want to accidentally trigger someone by just blabbing and sharing photos out of nowhere. xD Now...if someone else brings it up...I might say something...depending on the mood of the room, as it were.
It's strange to me that people think women haven't been into dolls forever. If they think dolls are a weird hobby, their eyes are closed. Anyway, I put a photocard of Hina in the back of my phone case. She's a little obscured by the print so I need to locate a clearer phone case. It's a little hard to find them because my phone is 6 years old. I'm considering an itabag themed with my dolls next.
I’ll argue, it isn’t just women who can be into dolls in a “socially acceptable” way, because action figures are another flavour of doll-like toys that are heavily marketed towards men. They're certainly more recent, but multiple genders of people have been sold articulated small humans for ages.
I'm happily closeted and have no intention to share with anyone outside the hobby, but I often wonder if the dolls would speak for themselves. They're pretty much sculptures.